(Closed) Would you drop a bridesmaid/groomsman if they couldn't make the rehearsal?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
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  • Post # 2
    9519 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    No. Unless they are incapable of walking a straight line down an aisle and finding a mark. Your party should be of people who support you. This is a stupid reason to brush someone off and hurt the friendship. 

    Post # 3
    5789 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Oh,come on. There’s really nothing to rehearse. I’m sure they can walk a straight line down the aisle or enter down the sides. It isn’t that complicated.

    Post # 4
    151 posts
    Blushing bee

    I personally wouldn’t. I couldn’t see myself holding something like that against them. Keeping their jobs is more important than attending a rehearsal dinner in my opinion. 

    Post # 5
    154 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

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    Post # 6
    9575 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    omg no! how hard is it to walk down the aisle, stand for 20 minutes, walk back!?

    Post # 7
    423 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    Nope. As long as someone in the wedding party knows what’s going on, it’s not that hard to figure out. 

    Post # 8
    7557 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Wtf?! I can’t believe you even have to ask this. It’s not like you will be graded on your wedding and not allowed to be married if the groomsman stands in the wrong place. Sheesh. If it’s that  important to you, go practice in a parking lot or somewhere at a time that everyone is available. It’s beyond obnoxious to expect people to take off work in the middle of the day to practice walking up an aisle.

    Post # 9
    2966 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Never. Our rehearsal is at 6pm on a Friday and people still have to work, and you know what? It doesn’t matter. 

    They don’t have to drop everything in their lives for our wedding. 


    Post # 10
    989 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    Yes. Dump every single one of them that doesn’t show up in the middle of a work week day. How dare they not be able to accommodate this narrow time frame!

    I’m sure it’s better to annihilate every relationship you have than have a processional that isn’t perfect. Smh

    Post # 11
    1228 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Have someone take a cell phone vid of your rehearsal so they can see exactly where they need to walk/what to do.

    Post # 12
    1399 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    One of our groomsmen’s wife was in a Friday wedding the day before ours several states away. He missed the rehearsal and somehow managed to walk himself in a straight line just fine.

    OP, breathe. Your attendants are (hopefully) not incompetent. 

    Post # 13
    3562 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    No. Just no. 

    The ONLY reason I even had a rehearsal was because the ceremony was taking place on a stage and I had the groomsmen walk in in reverse order to line up at the foot of the stage so that they would pair up with the right Bridesmaid or Best Man and escort her up the stairs onto the stage before taking their places.   It was just easier to show them vs try to explain it. 


    Post # 14
    4114 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    we didn’t even have a rehearsal. Everyone walked just fine 🙂 

    Post # 15
    4638 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    Three of my sister’s BMs were in a car that broke down and they missed the rehearsal.  Everything turned out fine, it really isn’t that hard. 

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