(Closed) Would you drop a bridesmaid/groomsman if they couldn't make the rehearsal?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Would you drop a bridesmaid/groomsman if they couldn't make the rehearsal?

    Yes

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  • Post # 31
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    no! over half of our wedding party couldn’t make the rehearsal – it had ZERO effect on the ceremony. for the people who couldn’t make the rehearsal, the Bridesmaid or Best Man or Groomsmen before or after the person just let them know when to walk or where to stand.

    Post # 32
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    Blushing bee

    I’m sure it’s a serious question .. look at the other questions that OP has posted… 

    Post # 33
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    No. As long as some are there they can fill the person in. I missed the rehearsal for my best friends wedding and I was Maid/Matron of Honor. I knew she wasn’t happy but I had a huge conflict and there was nothing I could do about it. Her wedding day was beautiful and the bridal party told me what to do. Its not super complicated.

    Post # 34
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    What an asinine question.

    Post # 35
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Our rehearsal was everyone show up for dinner and at a completely different place lets walk down a pretend aisle. rehearsals are not really needed… 

    Post # 36
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

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    kimlynn95:  Half of our bridal party didnt attend. The only time we could rehearse was on a Thursday before our Saturday wedding. We told everyone to please NOT travel and we’d see them at the rehearsal dinner (and a groomsman skipped this too) or on the wedding day. Totally not a big deal – everyone knows how to walk in a straight line. 

    Post # 37
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

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    kimlynn95:  Fiance and I just had an issue because his brother (his best man) was giving us a lot of attitude because he had to take a day off of work for the rehearsal. We were equally annoyed. For one thing, we have been engaged for nearly two years. This isn’t a surprise that we are having a rehearsal. He just got married two years ago, so he should know the drill. Further, we gave him ample notice so he could switch days with someone at his job. He works hourly, so if he had let his supervisor know ahead of time they could have done a few different things: given him a half day, let him switch with a co-worker, or make up the hours elsewhere in the two week span of the pay period. (FI and I used to work with this brother so we know how the company works.) Not to mention when it was his wedding, Fiance had to take several days off of work to accomodate all of the demands he had. 

    In our situation, no, it isn’t as simple as walking in a straight line and standing still for twenty minutes and then walking back as everyone has so helpfully pointed out. We are having a ring warming ceremony and it is important to us that everyone know what is going on so there is no confusion or wasted time during the actual ceremony. In my opinion, this is simply part of the duty as a groomsman or bridesmaid. Attending the rehearsal is just something that you do. Would I drop someone, though? No. I would be irritated, but hey, shit happens, and your wedding is only the most important thing to you, so not everyone will give you 100% that you want. 

    Post # 38
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Absolutely not, I can’t believe this is a question!

    Post # 39
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    my sister in law’s best friend couldn’t make the rehearsal because it was a week before the wedding and she had to fly in. She was just quickly filled in the morning of the wedding. It wasn’t hard to tell her that she had to walk a straight line and turn a corner.

    Post # 40
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2017

    Um noooo… wtf is wrong with people… smh seriously?!?! You choose you bridal party because they are close and special to you and because they can’t make it to the rehearsal which it at noon on a business day you are considering droping them? Seriously?!?! Some friend you are.

    Post # 41
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    my moh missed my rehearsal & rehearsal dinner, and i knew beforehand, was okay with it.  she did fine!

    Post # 42
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    Bumble bee

    No. You cannot expect someone to drop everuthingnichael to attend a rehearsal in the middle of the day. Also, the fact that this is even a question makes me feel sorry for your bridal party. 

    Post # 43
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Dropping them? NO!… that is not very nice. Have someone take a video of it for the people who are nott here. They are doing you a favor with being in your wedding.. and you have to realize they have a life and crap happens.

    Post # 44
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Have you ever been in a bridal party? I can’t believe this is a question. I understand you want a perfect day and its your moment and yada-yada-yada but it’s walking! People have their own lives and things come up. Their life doesn’t surround weddings (unless it’s their own). Not a big deal at all so don’t stress about it.

    Post # 45
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

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