(Closed) Would you dump your SO if he wore these shoes?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 47
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Helper bee

I think the shoes were just the icing on the cake.. I’m assuming your work party was pretty important to you. He whines all day, waits to the last minute to get ready (probably stressing you out) and THEN puts on those shoes?! helll no. Slamming the door might have been excessive, but leaving him at home was definitely the right choice. He was being a huuuge baby.

At this point if you hate the shoes that much, and this is how he’s going to use them against you, I’d say it’s non-negotiable that he never gets to wear those in your presence without prior approval (read: halloween. maybe.) Because while people might say that you should value your relationship more than shoes, isn’t he valuing his shoes more than you and your sanity right now?

Post # 48
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would be mad (bc of his whining and the shoes), but wouldnt dump.

Post # 49
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

It does not sound like you two are compatible, unless this was supposed to be a funny story.

Post # 50
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@EffieTrinket:  HAHA I love your comments. +1 on the puppy those shoes ehm ehm might find its way to the yard!

If he has the money and he wants to wear those shoes who cares. I wouldn’t dump someone over an object. If you can’t handle his personality and how he chooses to express himself on the other hand I would think to myself if I truly love this person and want to spend my life with him. If your answer is not YES that would be cause to dump someone but not SHOES!

Post # 51
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Are those horsehair? I kind of like those – saw some similiar ones at Neimans. I would definitely rock them but likely buy them discounted.

Post # 52
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

Those are pretty hideous. However, no. I wouldn’t dump him over it….

 

I would be pissed if Fiance spent $500 on a pair of shoes, though.

Post # 53
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@JennaWade:  

 I’m going to have to talk to him tonight when I get home from work, but I don’t know what I can even say to him.


I would suggest “I’m sorry. I behaved like a child having a temper tantrum. I don’t expect you to choose my wardrobe, so I don’t know where I got off having the temerity to decide what you should wear. I will never do it again, Please forgive me.”

Post # 54
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

If my husband purchased those shoes and legitimately liked them I then I don’t see the problem. He can wear whatever he wants, just like I can.

Post # 55
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Helper bee

@JennaWade:  OMG! Those are seriously hideous shoes! But cut the poor man some slack. Sometimes men can be such idiots.

On a sidenote, you write a damn good post. 

Post # 56
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Oh my god, those are hilarious. My fiancé loves his fuschia wool slippers and two (yes TWO) pairs of Crocs. I hate them, but I love him. So I love him even when he wears them.

He was rude to wear them just to annoy you, but you seriously overreacted! I hope this is a joke cause otherwise you sound a little psycho…

Post # 57
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I hope this post is a joke because you are seriously acting like a 5 year old.  If he did that to you would you act the same way. He is an adult and can wear whatever kind of shoes he wants. Even if they are ugly. I would be more upset he spent that much money more than anything. 

Post # 58
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I wouldn’t dump him but I sure as heck wouldn’t be seen in public with him. lol

I always tease Darling Husband about this hideous pair of sunglasses he used to wear when we started dating. If he had worn those babies outside of his car I don’t think he would have gotten a second date, haha.

Post # 59
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Bumble bee

You left him at your front door over SHOES?!

You got a lot bigger problems if shoes make you react like that.

Post # 60
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@starbuckslover:  +1  I agree that the reaction was a result of his attitude, topped off by the shoes.  I know guys (including my DH) like to get reactions, but there are times when they go too far.  I don’t think it’s worth breaking up over (which I’m assuming is facetious anyways), but just have a discussion about how you were feeling and how the situation was handled.

Post # 61
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Also, I don’t know where you work, but at my work functions I would definitely not want my Darling Husband wearing those shoes, as it is a more conservative group.  I could understand in that situation making him change or not bringing him if he refused.

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