(Closed) Would you dump your SO if he wore these shoes?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 77
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Maybe, if he constantly bought stupid ugly crap like that for a crap ton of money.  I wouldn’t be with someone who is not sensible with their money, and $500 bucks on shoes, much less ugly ones like that is not sensible imo.  This whole ordeal, the shoes and the slamming doors is silly though, but I can see how one last thing like the shoes could tip someone off if he had been a pain in the ass complaining and stuff leading up to it.

Post # 78
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Bumble bee

I might consider it if my bf wore something like red suede stilettos with goldfish in the heels paired with a miniskirt to my work party. These? Nah.

Post # 80
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

They are ugly and expensive but I agree with PP, you overreacted. They’re shoes!

Post # 82
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Ugly shoes, but you way over reacted! I think you need to fix your communication problems in your relationship, being passive aggressive with eachother is not healthy. Also, you may very well have planned this for weeks, but when the day came it seems he just didn’t feel like it anymore, it happens and you should have been more gracious and understanding that he just wasn’t up for it. Instead of trying to force him into going and getting pissed off when he showed numerous times that he just simply didn’t want to.

Post # 83
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I wouldn’t dump him but they sure would disappear!

Post # 84
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Worker bee

I would have called his bluff, told him they were fantastic, and brought him along. He’s the one who will look silly, and maybe after calling his bluff he’d be too embarrassed to pull it again. I can’t believe he spent that money on them, but whatever. Hope he doesn’t step in a puddle.

Post # 85
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Your reaction was a little extreme… 

Post # 86
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

loose the drama, seriously, it’s just shoes! My FH has some clothes and shoes I hate but I don’t get angry about him wearing them, so what he didn’t want to go to your party, he was going to go simply because he loves you. I think you owe him an apology.

Post # 87
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Wow….those are pretty ugly and for $500? hahaha….I can see why guys scratch their heads at the amount of money we spend on our shoes. We all get that itch where we think something is really cool and just have to get it.

I don’t think I would get upset about it, but I would just be at a loss for words. My husband is pretty careful about how he spends his money and his shoe preferences are usually confined to Vans or Reefs. Also, if he really did like something that ugly, I wouldn’t say anything. I will just let his friends or my friends ridicule him about it until they were thrown in the trash.  I am sneaky that way….

Post # 88
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

If you don’t have combined finances, you don’t get a say in what he spends his money on.  I think the shoes are funny.

Post # 89
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Da fuck?

Post # 90
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Personally I would encourage him to wear them EVERYWHERE and point them out to anyone who approached us.  It wouldn’t take too long for the rest of the world to convince him how stupid they are.

Also in our climate, wearing them outside a handfull of times would utterly ruin the velvet.  So, problem doubly solved.

Further, I would not even for a moment consider marrying someone who made me completely irate by his choice of footwear.  If you care that much more about his fashion choices than you do about him, do both of you a favour and yes, break up with him.

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