(Closed) Would you easily go to thanksgiving weekend wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My cousin got married last year during thanksgiving weekend and my family and myself all attended and it was fine:) shoot for 5k do it! Lol

Post # 18
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Worker bee

One of my good friends got married the Saturday after Thanksgiving, and it honestly was no problem for me. People take time off around that time of year anyway, so it seemed relatively easy for out of town people (like me!) to be there.

Post # 20
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Traveling on Thanksgiving weekend is ridiculous!  I would be upset and unless we were super close I would take a pass.

Post # 21
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would not attend a wedding on Thanksgiving weekend, unless it was local. Sorry!

Post # 22
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

I would have no problem going because it’s not the most important holiday ever to either myself or Darling Husband, but I can see how a lot of people would decline.  On the other hand, if you treated it as a big family reunion, you might get good family turnout, but not the best friend turnout.

Post # 23
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@weddingmaven:  +1. We are busy Thanksgiving weekend and wouldn’t even try to accomodate this.

@Allyg:  You have to weigh what is most important to you – catering to your guests and having the highest attendance rate possible, or saving money. I can compare a Bentley (out of my price range) to my vehicle and of course I like it better. They are totally different price points. I am sure you can find something in your price point that would work for everyone. I

You have chosen to have a wedding and not elope, so you do need to consider your guests and their comfort. I assume you want them to attend, otherwise you wouldn’t be inviting them. I feel you will end up sorely disappointed if you book a wedding on a long weekend when people are busy with their family obligations.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee

@Allyg:  For me personally, it is one of the few weekends we get together with my husband’s family. I would not be likely to ditch rare family time for a wedding.  But, weddings are also family time, so if it works for your family, then go ahead.

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

If I had a friend getting married Thanksgiving weekend, in a town other than where I’d be for Thanksgiving anyway, I’d have to decline. It’s a time I spend with family. I wouldn’t miss it for anything.

To me the point of a wedding is to celebrate with those I care about. If half the guests can’t make it, what’s the point? I’d rather have a less perfect venue and everyone there than the most beautiful place on earth and half my loved ones.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m assuming you’re canadian bc that’s our thanksgiving weekend – US is in november so…

I debated having my wedding that weekend too but when tossing the idea around with out of town friends, I already had some telling me they likely wouldn’t come (even with 2 years notice!!!).

I know some people don’t care about thanksgiving, but some people LOVE it.  I am someone who LOOOOOOVES thanksgiving.  I love the big turkey dinner and the family time, and the fall colours and weather.  I would have no problem going to a Thanksgiving wedding bc usually our dinners are on the sunday and weddings are usually saturdays.  BUT if I had to travel FAR, like over a 3 hour drive, I might decline bc it would be important to me to be with my family on the sunday.

I changed our date to the 4th for this reason.  BUT 5k is a LOT of money… so … do what you gotta do!

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would be really sad about having to choose between a friend’s wedding and Thanksgiving with my family. I think you’d be putting people in a tough spot. Ultimately, being with the people you love is a lot more important than the venue.

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Personally, unless it was a family wedding, I wouldn’t go.  Thanksgiving is one of the few times during the year I get to spend with my family. 

Post # 29
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m assuming you are talking about the Saturday after thanksgiving?  If so, I would go if I lived nearby or happened to be nearby.  But I probably wouldn’t go more than an hour or so out of the way.  But I see my parents pretty regularly so it’s not as necessary for me to spend my entire 4 day weekend with them.

Do people in your family normally stay in town all weekend?  Something to think about, as people have families in different places and might only spend wednesday-friday in town before leaving to either go home or go to a different families on Fri/Saturday.

If I’m reading your post corrrectly…you were looking in October originally but then they called and said if you did thanksgiving weekend they would drop the price $5k.

Post # 30
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sorry but i do not enjoy long weekend weddings. Those are weekends i like to spend doing things i enjoy, like taking a trip or something. I cant do that if i have to attend a wedding. 

Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

Well, on the one hand if I could at least drive (and not drive around any cities as I am sure traffic would be bad) I would definitely consider going! The only problem I have is that we actually have THREE thanksgivings to attend: My mothers’, my fathers’ and my husband’s family.

We are quite close to our families so if it was OUR family getting married, I think it would be great! But even a close friend… it would be hard to call. I would like to think so but I just wouldn’t know for certain! You really have to know your friends and family….

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