Post # 16
I would end the relationship anyway as I, like yourself, am not really a drinker and would not be compatible with someone who likes to drink a lot, but I would especially end it if it is something you say you cannot deal with based on your past experiences.
If someone is a mean drunk then they really should not be drinking. This is a problem and has the potential to become dangerous very quickly. Please don’t let it become your problem. Shouting is one thing, but it could turn more aggressive or even violent. I really don’t like the excuse of people being able to say whatever they want when they’re drunk as if it doesn’t count. If you stay in this relationship, it doesn’t sound like things are going to change as he didn’t accept responsibility and made it seem like YOUR problem for being too sensitive. Run like the wind!
Post # 18
Yuck! And he’s really messy! Be glad you found out now and don’t look back!
Post # 19
Omg what a fcking psycho. Yes do not talk to him ever again. And be careful… he sounds like he has the potential to get violent. Ugh what a nightmare. I hope he just leaves you alone.
Post # 20
You made the right choice. You have standards. A grown man having nothing better to do but drink on the weekends is so
unattractive. Could you elaborate on “I’m dreading having to commute with this person when the city reopens”? I would suggest you keep your distance.
Post # 21
I didn’t even read the post. The answer to the title is yes. There is no context that would make me think you should stay in a relationship with a mean drunk.
Post # 22
Girl, he’s mean when he’s not drunk. That ain’t the alcohol talking…..its him as he really is. Run!
Post # 23
What the actual fuck. I was expecting you to talk about a few snide comments he made after drinking from your title. He legitimately sounds like an abusive alcoholic psychopath. This shouldn’t even be a question bee.. you need to get away from him!
Post # 24
you’re too good for this guy. Block him and if he shows up at your door again, call the police.
Post # 26
I think what disturbs me as much as everything everyone else has said is that you even have to ask this question. Thank goodness you never slept with him. Drunk or sober he’s nasty and unstable. Run, do not walk away from this train wreck.
Post # 27
If he shows up again file a complaint. Be careful hes insane. Are you positive thats he works in psychiatry or if he’s actually the psychiatric patient??
Post # 28
He sounds very disturbing–and disturbed. Definitely stay far away from him. I would call the police if he shows up drunk in his underwear again. I wonder what “works in psychiatry” means. That seems awfully vague.
Post # 29
trust me, I’m disturbed by it too! Logically I know he’s completely off his rocker, but I’m not able to be completely dismissive of the insults. I’ve never in my life been called so many awful things in quick succession. But this thread and talking it out with friends have been helpful!
Post # 30
It’s an upsetting situation to be in, of course, but there should be no question as to whether to end the relationship or that the insults are a result of his own mental illness or addiction and have nothing to do with you.