(Closed) Would you ever ask for a gift back?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3667 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Wow, no way! A gift is a gift… it’s not conditional.

Post # 4
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Definitely not okay! 

Post # 5
827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

No, it’s never ok. That’s completely rude! Is she giving it back?

Post # 6
750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Admittedly, I’m not the etiquette expert, but no!!!!!!!! I’ve never heard of such a thing!!!!

Post # 7
205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

That sounds SO rude!!  No way, that’s never okay!

Post # 8
5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Never.  That’s insane.

Post # 9
3471 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

Absolutely NOT ok. 

But, that being said– if a couple gets an annulment, the gifts should be returned.  Not that I would ask for it back in this event, but I did have a friend who got married in late September and seperated before Christmas… The groom was very surprised when the bride refused to return the gifts (she left him) he did however call all of “his” guests from the wedding and offer to return them (and admitted to me he had to buy a few of them new again, because the bride took them with her). 

Post # 10
989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Incredibly rude.  Sounds like the guest was more making a point about the bride’s relationship with her father than anything.

Post # 11
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Nope, rude, rude, rude.  I would duck their calls until they got over it.

Post # 12
11270 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i have never heard such a thing.  rude.

Post # 13
1736 posts
Bumble bee

I would never, ever ask for a gift back. It’s appalling that she even has to entertain that kind of request.

Post # 14
152 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Wow… this is crazy and rude.  The only time I could even consider having a gift given back is if the wedding is annulled/divorced within a short time, or MAYBE if the bride uninvited someone herself.  But the guest should never ask for a gift back!

Post # 15
8471 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

That’s awful..and goes to show just the type of person he is.  I’d say screw you.

Post # 16
1399 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

HOW RUDE! I would never. I’ve heard that you should be ready to return the gifts if you break up in less than a year… I wouldn’t expect my gift back then, either! A gift is a gift is a gift. YOU DON’T TAKE ‘EM BACK!

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