Post # 1
I mean, would you ever consider BEING a surrogate for someone else?
I had a dream last night that my brother and his wife (IRL, my brother isn’t married, haha) were having trouble TTC and asked me to be their surrogate. My reaction (in the dream) was to say yes immediately, so glad to help them! But my husband got upset (in the dream) because we haven’t had kids yet, and he thought it was weird that I would have someone else’s baby before ours, but eventually he decided it was okay, because it was like getting to do a test run on being pregnant, so that I could decide if I ever wanted to get pregnant and have kids … hahahaha, ridiculous, but obviously that’s because it was a dream!
It got me to thinking though – would you ever consider being a surrogate for someone?
Post # 3
Honestly, no. I wouldn’t even do it for a close friend or relative. It is very invasive, carrying a baby that isn’t even your for 9 months, going through delivery, etc.
I love how some people are willing to do that, I am just more selfish than they are, I guess!
Post # 4
Nope, I’m way too selfish.
Post # 5
Darling Husband and I talked about this when Keith Urban and Nicole Kidman announced they had another baby by surrogate. I told him if they came up to me and asked me to do that, HELL YA (cha-ching), he was not amused lol. In everyday life I don’t think I could. It reminds me of FRIENDS when Phoebe does that and then becomes attached to the babies. I wouldn’t want to give the baby up after those 9 months.
Post # 6
I would absolutely be a surrogate, doesn’t matter if it’s for friends, family, or through an agency. I definitely want to try surrogacy after I’ve had a child or two of my own. I would never consider it BEFORE having my own kids though; it seems like it would be too hard to carry a child for 9 months and then give it to it’s parents, while if I already had kids I think it would be less of an issue.
Along the same lines, I would also love to donate eggs. I feel so terrible for couples who are unable to have children, I really do want to help any way I can!
Post # 7
I would. For someone I really love, someone who I know desperately wants a child and would be a great parent. I’d never make the decision on my own, it would be a serious discussion between me and my husband, but if he was okay with it, and the arrangement worked for everyone involved, I would consider it. It would be such an amazing gift, and an incredible bond to have with the child of a loved one.
Post # 8
I am so selfish I couldn’t go through all of that just to give the baby away. You bond so much with the baby while it is still in your belly, I would be entirely too attached and I would feel entitled =)
Post # 9
I think I could do it for someone close. Of course, I haven’t had kids yet so I don’t know how much I love or hate being pregnant. 😉 The hardest part would be handing the baby over to the parents for sure, but if they were there and involved the whole time it seems like that would make a big difference.
Yeah, I think I could definitely do it for either of my sisters but I don’t think they would be likely to consider it.
Post # 10
This totally reminds me of Phoebe’s surrogacy experience on Friends. Anyone?
But yeah, for family I would. I have considered maybe one day being asked to do it for my youngest sister. She has spina biffada and neurofibromatosis, and is also very very smal for her age. She wants kids – badly – and if she is ever unable to have them I would be glad to.
However, I may not be able to have any of my own anyways. I have PCOS and am unsure if I’ll be able to conceive on my own. SO, it may be a moot point for me. But if I CAN, and she NEEDS me to. I would.
Post # 11
I think I would for a close family member or friend. I would be worried about getting attached to the baby though. & I think I would want to make sure I was done having children of my own. It would be an incredible thing to do for someone who couldn’t have children.
Post # 12
@AmeliaBedelia: hey I said that in my post 🙂 Poor Pheebs
Post # 13
Definitely, assuming that I find that I like being pregnant. If I turn out to be miserable during my pregnancies then no, but at this point, I’ve always thought I’d love to be a surrogate for someone after we have kids. My sister and I have always had a pact that if one of us had difficulty getting pregnant we would do whatever it took for the other- be surrogates, donate eggs, etc.
Post # 14
I voted that I’d consider if for a close friend or relative, and I think that I would consider it, but I don’t know if I’d ever actually do it. It would have to be after I’ve had kids of my own, and it would have to be someone I was very very close to, that desperately wanted a child of their own, and, as awful as I know this is going to sound, someone that I thought deserved it. And of course my husband would have to be 110% behind it.
I’m not sure all of those things would ever line up, and even if they did, I’m not sure I’m unselfish enough to do it…but until those specific circumstances arose, I really don’t know what my decision would be.
Post # 15
I was never much into Friends, but has anyone else seen Baby Mama? I think part of what got this into my dreams was watching that movie!
*not that that’s what surrogacy would really be like, obviously!*
Post # 16
I would do it for my sister. But pretty much only her. Pregnancy is a big deal, and I wouldn’t feel comfortable going through all that, not to mention giving up the baby. And I think I definitely wouldn’t do it before having kids of my own. But if my baby sister gets married one day and can’t carry the child herself, I think I would probably do it and feel wonderful about it.