Post # 92
From what I’ve heard, it’s a pretty invasive procedure so I wouldn’t do it for free. And there’d have to be no chance of any offspring being able to track me down. But otherwise yes, no question. On a purely selfish point, I don’t ever want kids myself so I might as well get some compensation for putting up with this whole womb thing.
(It’s illegal in my country afaik. Otherwise I’d have sold every egg I have).
Post # 93
no. i would feel responsible for the lives that came off the eggs so i would be too worried about that.
Post # 94
Not for profit, unless I was absolutely destitute (in which case I don’t think I could say). I’d consider donating for free if a close friend / family member asked.
Post # 95
I looked into it a few years ago, but was a few months too young to be considered at the time. As of right now, I probably wouldn’t, plus the process is long and painful sounding.
Semi-off topic, but has anyone seen the trailer for Vince Vaugh’s Delivery Man? His character was a sperm donor and fathers 533 kids. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oF_GqzKiMv4
Post # 96
I wasn’t clear enough about my position. I meant foster care rather than adoption, which I believe in many states you have to be at least 21. Like I’ve said to another poster, I’m not trying to demonize anyone who goes the egg route, it’s just not for me and I don’t think I should feel bad for that.
Post # 97
I was not trying to be offensive and was just stating my own opinion.
As for in vitro, surrogates, and donors, I do not personally have a problem with it. I’m not sure where in my post you thought I was being judgmental about it. I just said that it’s not for me. I don’t plan on having kids, so this isn’t something I think about much at all. But I guess something I didn’t go into depth about is that my husband and I would be open to being foster parents when we are older and more financially able. There is a chance that I wouldn’t be able to carry a baby to term anyway because of a medical condition I have.
As for this “I bristle at the notion that care for children in need should be the infertiles’ burden”…I’d be lying if I said that statement does not bother me and I feel like there are a lot better ways to describe innocent children without calling them burdens. They are living, breathing beings who deserve love just as much as anyone else. And I didn’t say that all orphaned babies (I say this because those given up for adoption often get put in orphanages like my H) need to be adopted by infertile couples. I’m not trying to get that put into law or anything. People are free to do what works for them.
Post # 98
Nope! It’s illegal and I wouldn’t go international just to get money for my eggs.
Health-wise, it’s not worth it to me, and I probably wouldn’t qualify anyway.
Post # 99
I would LOVE to donate my eggs (once I have my 2 kids of course)… but in the website it says it’s women between 22-30 … or can you donate without it affecting your TTC later??
Post # 100
I don’t think I could ever do it. It sounds very invasive for one, and it just weirds me out somehow.
I would maybe consider it if it were for a close relative or friend, but that would be decided should that event occur. And it would be donated, not for money (which apprently is illegal in Canada anyway).
Post # 101
- Wedding: June 2010 - parent\'s backyard
yes, when I was younger I was so poor! I totally would have done this for money, but I didn’t even know it was an option. I don’t see myself worrying about the possibility of my offspring being in the world. If I didn’t bear it, see it or raise it, then it’s not my kid.
as for today, I don’t need the money anymore and I’m probably too old for it anyway 🙂
Post # 102
I would. I would also not finch if Fiance wanted to donate sperm. This may come from the fact that I grew up around folks who were adopted and several families who chose IVF. If I can help another family have the child they dream of (and be compensated, on top of that!) then why not? Unfortunately, I’m pretty sure I’m not qualified, as my mother is adopted and has no knowledge of her genetic history, and wicked health issues run on my father’s side. If a friend specifically asked for my eggs, though, I would give them in a heartbeat.
Post # 103
I said no. I looked into it before and it is a MAJOR commitment. I thought for sure, then, that I would be able to do it. I didn’t have any children at the time, so that was also a factor. In theory I might say yes, but realistically, no.
Post # 104
No. It’s a nice thought to think that you’re giving someone a baby, but there are millions of children already born that need homes.