(Closed) Would you ever pay for or help pay for your own E ring?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you ever pay for or help pay for your E ring?

    Yes I would have no problem paying for it or helping to pay for it if it meant getting my dream ring

    No way I would never contribute anything, he can save up for however long it takes

    Maybe it depends on the situation

    I would rather he pay for it all and get a smaller ring I just want to get married!

    I did pay for my own ring

  • Post # 31
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    Bumble bee

    My Fiance is old school in that he was absolutely adament that he has the buy my Ering with his own money that he had worked and earned.  But his business got hit hard with the recession and with debts piling up, he had to dip into his savings and ring fund just to stay afloat.  When his family heard how much he wanted to propose to me and get engaged, they were so happy they all chipped in for the ring fund and he got me my beautiful dream ering.  At first I was shocked when I found out and honestly, was a little weirded out because his family got involved.  But now, I see how much love and acceptance his family has for me to be a part of their family, so whenever I look at my ering it symbolizes not only my man’s love and commitment to our relationship but also his family’s love for me and that I am officially a part of them.  

    Post # 32
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

    Joint finances! So yes, I paid for half of my ring (if you want to look at it like that). I also helped pick it out. 😀

    Post # 33
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    Regardless of how expensive the ring is, I think both parties ought to contribute towards its purchase. At the point where we are getting engaged and eventually married, we basically share finances, anyway. My fiance and I are college students, and we both contributed toward the ring, with me contributing the lion’s share. I am just not the type of girl to make my fiance be responsible for a purchase that’s important to both of our futures! I think it is synbolic, as well as practical, to make the purchase together. 

    Post # 34
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I paid for half of my ring.  Since we picked it out together, I felt like it was a common expense, so I had no problem splitting the cost.  I don’t think I would help pay for a ring sight unseen though. 

    Post # 35
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    Blushing bee

    My SO and I put all our money in a joint account. We don’t have any other accounts so yes, I would be helping to pay for e-ring and am totally fine with it. i guess we’ve been paying even for gifts for ourselves for years and years. Doesn’t matter to us. 

    Post # 36
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    I did contribute to my ring, though I didn’t pay for all of it. It was about 50/50. Fiance definitely wasn’t on board with it at first, but I had a major windfall when he hit a snag right before he was going to finish paying off my ring. He made me wait around 3 months after he got the ring before he proposed (since he wanted it to be at least a kind of surprise – which it was!).

    Post # 37
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    Bumble bee

    I’ll be combining finances when married anyway, so it wouldn’t bother me. It’s pretty much “our” money from this point. 

    Post # 38
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Considering I’m a broke student and Fiance has a degree and job, and I don’t have the money to pay for my own and he does, I wouldn’t realistically be able to. If I did have more money than Fiance, by all means, I would pay for my own in a heartbeat!

    Post # 39
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I help pay for my first Ering we were already living together sharing finances. my hubby wanted to get me the ring of my dreams but we couldn’t afford and financing a ring wasn’t a option for us.. He wanted to get me the ring i always dreamed of this would take years for us ..So i decide to buy him a ring an propose this way it would take the pressure off to pay for the ring on his own.we purchased a very cost friendly ring it wasn’t my dream ring but it was beautiful i still have it cant wear it as it was WG n we learned after I had a nickel allergy!!! We have been marriage 5 years now and we got my dream ring together I think every couple is unique in what does and doesn’t work for them so what i choose would be taboo for another most people are shocked that i proposed but it felt right at the time for me and it makes are story that much more unique to me !!!

    Post # 40
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

    Yes, absolutely.

    Post # 41
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    Hope I don’t get a lot of hate for this, but I voted no.

    My first marriage, in the beginning, ex would buy me jewelry for Christmas on credit, but I ended up paying for it.  After years of this, I told him to stop.  It was just for show anyways, and nothing he got me had any meaning behind it.

    Now I’m with someone who is truly in love with me, as I am with him (Not about jewelry I know), but he has much better job than I do, we don’t have joint finances, and we don’t live together.  There is no way I’d pay for my own jewelry (given to me by someone else) again.  If he couldn’t afford it, I’d simply go without.  

    • This reply was modified 6 years, 4 months ago by  anniebean.
    Post # 42
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I see nothing wrong with chipping in for your ering. It’s 2014….a lot of women are professionals and don’t need a man to soley sport the bill for their ring! Also if your heart is set on an outrageous ring you better be willing to chip in if needed!

     

    Post # 43
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We share our money so I wouldn’t have a problem with it since it’s all the same in the end.

    Post # 44
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    Buzzing bee

    I never had an idea in my head of what exactly I wanted, so I didnt really have a “dream ring.” I wouldnt have helped pay for my e-ring, I probably would have either suggested something less expensive, or just gone without a ring while saving up for something. 

    Post # 45
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

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    BWLE:  I prefer to have my ring be a gift from him only BUT even more than I want that, I wanted to looove my ring.

    If I had wanted something above his budget, it would be only fair for me to make up the difference. After all, it wouldn’t be fair for me to demand that he spend $X more because I wanted a pricier ring. (I don’t know if he would have let me contribute. Maybe.) 

    To flip this, his engagement watch from me did exceed my budget. We took the difference from our joint account. I thought it was very important that he get the watch that he liked best, not the one that fit the budget. Maybe we would have done the same if I had wanted a more expensive ring.

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