Post # 91
I would leave the cost of the e-ring to the fiance. He’s the one proposing! Fortunately, my Fiance is awesome and was able to get me a lovely ring all on his own (with my subtle direction). But regardless, I think the e-ring is a reflection of the proposer’s stability/abilities, so I would just leave it to him. The ring isn’t everything though.
Post # 92
if i picke dit out or demanded certain qualifications then yah I think its only fair to offer .. but, I did not he picked I wanted small and he paid.
Post # 93
I voted no, I just want toget married!
A lot of ladies have said “its 2014, independent women, ect…” I disagree. An engagement ring is a gift. A token of love for his betrothed.
That being said, I am an independent woman, 31 years old with a great job and I own a home on a loan in only my name. I am successful. I dont “need” a man, or a pretty sparkly ring. I do however, love my bf and would wear with pride any gift he gives me. So no, I wouldnt help pay for it because I think a gift should be somethig that the giver can give. Whatever he chose to give me would be appriciated.
That being said bees, my bf did ask me to pick out a ring and I told him the metal color I prefer and which rings I was drawn to, and I prefer a much smaller, plain ring. No bling for this bee!
Post # 94
+100 Whomever is proposing should buy the ring.
I would never put any money towards my own engagement ring. I see my ering as a gift that comes from whomever is popping the question. It demonstrates intent for marriage.
I also believe that if the person who was proposed to, should buy a wedding ring for his/her spouse to wear after marriage.
Post # 95
An engagement ring is a gift, but ultimately the money comes out of the same pot.
My Fiance and I sat down and made a budget and then starting looking at building a ring within that budget. He paid for it. Ultimately, he went over budget (I saw the ticket). I would have had no problem contributing because it’s a tradition that I chose to follow. We already have everything we need and want, so it’s not like it took away from a downpayment for a house, but I’m sure we could have used it on a vacation or something else nice.
Post # 96
My first engagement ring, my fiance paid for it. We later decided that we wanted to upgrade it, so we paid the new one off together.
Post # 97
I paid the deposit and we’ll probably pay the balance from our joint account now that we have pooled finances, so we’ll both have contributed but I have actually paid the lion’s share and that’s ok with me. He would have saved up to get me what I wanted, and when I tried it on we both knew it was the one, but I didn’t want to wait for him to save up. I just want to be his fiancé and his wife, and in our relationship we really do share everything, including our finances, so it doesn’t feel wrong to me.
Post # 98
My Fiance and I bought my engagement ring, wedding band, and his band all at the same time, and we are paying for it together. I wanted to help, so I could get the style of ring I wanted.
Post # 99
- Wedding: April 2016 - Gratus Vineyard
We’ve been together and lived together for 5 years, so our finances are joined. So I guess I’m technically helping to pay, though it’d be impossible to really divide our finances and say. Even still, I wouldn’t mind chipping in because even if it comes from his credit card it is still ours since we share it all.
Post # 100
BWLE: I managed the bizare accomplishment of paying for about a fifth of my ring and still being completely and entirely surprised by the engagement (I had absolutely no idea he was planning it never mind had bought a ring until he asked). My Fi had a pot that he collected £2 coins in and had been since about a year after we got together, and I put some £2 coins in there as well over the three years he had it, he then used the collection to buy the ring!