(Closed) Would you ever pay for or help pay for your own E ring?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you ever pay for or help pay for your E ring?
    Yes I would have no problem paying for it or helping to pay for it if it meant getting my dream ring : (160 votes)
    57 %
    No way I would never contribute anything, he can save up for however long it takes : (18 votes)
    6 %
    Maybe it depends on the situation : (47 votes)
    17 %
    I would rather he pay for it all and get a smaller ring I just want to get married! : (36 votes)
    13 %
    I did pay for my own ring : (22 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 91
    Member
    7910 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I would leave the cost of the e-ring to the fiance. He’s the one proposing! Fortunately, my Fiance is awesome and was able to get me a lovely ring all on his own (with my subtle direction). But regardless, I think the e-ring is a reflection of the proposer’s stability/abilities, so I would just leave it to him. The ring isn’t everything though.

    Post # 92
    Member
    1115 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    if i picke dit out or demanded certain qualifications then yah I think its only fair to offer .. but, I did not he picked I wanted small and he paid. 

    Post # 93
    Member
    137 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I voted no, I just want toget married!

    A lot of ladies have said “its 2014, independent women, ect…” I disagree. An engagement ring is a gift. A token of love for his betrothed.   

    That being said, I am an independent woman, 31 years old with a great job and I own a home on a loan in only my name. I am successful. I dont “need” a man, or a pretty sparkly ring. I do however, love my bf and would wear with pride any gift he gives me. So no, I wouldnt help pay for it because I think a gift should be somethig that the giver can give.  Whatever he chose to give me would be appriciated. 

    That being said bees, my bf did ask me to pick out a ring and I told him the metal color I prefer and which rings I was drawn to, and I prefer a much smaller, plain ring. No bling for this bee!

    Post # 94
    Member
    3277 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    craigslistgirl:  

    +100 Whomever is proposing should buy the ring. 

    I would never put any money towards my own engagement ring. I see my ering as a gift that comes from whomever is popping the question. It demonstrates intent for marriage.

    I also believe that if the person who was proposed to, should buy a wedding ring for his/her spouse to wear after marriage. 

     

    Post # 95
    Member
    437 posts
    Helper bee

    An engagement ring is a gift, but ultimately the money comes out of the same pot.

    My Fiance and I sat down and made a budget and then starting looking at building a ring within that budget. He paid for it. Ultimately, he went over budget (I saw the ticket). I would have had no problem contributing because it’s a tradition that I chose to follow. We already have everything we need and want, so it’s not like it took away from a downpayment for a house, but I’m sure we could have used it on a vacation or something else nice.

    Post # 96
    Member
    124 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2020

    My first engagement ring, my fiance paid for it. We later decided that we wanted to upgrade it, so we paid the new one off together.

    Post # 97
    Member
    50 posts
    Worker bee

    I paid the deposit and we’ll probably pay the balance from our joint account now that we have pooled finances, so we’ll both have contributed but I have actually paid the lion’s share and that’s ok with me. He would have saved up to get me what I wanted, and when I tried it on we both knew it was the one, but I didn’t want to wait for him to save up. I just want to be his fiancé and his wife, and in our relationship we really do share everything, including our finances, so it doesn’t feel wrong to me.

    Post # 98
    Member
    93 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    My Fiance and I bought my engagement ring, wedding band, and his band all at the same time, and we are paying for it together. I wanted to help, so I could get the style of ring I wanted. 

    Post # 99
    Member
    65 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2016 - Gratus Vineyard

    We’ve been together and lived together for 5 years, so our finances are joined. So I guess I’m technically helping to pay, though it’d be impossible to really divide our finances and say. Even still, I wouldn’t mind chipping in because even if it comes from his credit card it is still ours since we share it all. 

    Post # 100
    Member
    1161 posts
    Bumble bee

    BWLE:  I managed the bizare accomplishment of paying for about a fifth of my ring and still being completely and entirely surprised by the engagement (I had absolutely no idea he was planning it never mind had bought a ring until he asked). My Fi had a pot that he collected £2 coins in and had been since about a year after we got together, and I put some £2 coins in there as well over the three years he had it, he then used the collection to buy the ring! 

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