(Closed) Would you ever Share your Bridal Shower With Another Bride?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

If the bridal shower is going to be your family plus family from your Fiance and her Fiance that would be kind of odd. I would certainly feel uncomfortable if her Future Mother-In-Law is the one footing the bill too.  I don’t think you would be a bridezilla for declining.  

My cousin is getting married about a month and a half after me.  I think the only way I would share a shower with her would be if it was a shower for our family only.  I think the in-laws on both sides would probably be confused and a little uncomfortable.

ETA:  Just wanted to say good for you on your point of view. I love that you mention that you and your Fiance getting married and it being your day is what is important.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

No, you deserve your own bridal shower no matter how big your wedding is!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@d_mari3: No problem. Yeah I get what you mean about things being taken the wrong way. It’s hard to convey ideas properly sometimes over the internet and everyone reads what you say with their own voice.  

Considering what you’ve said about your style of wedding and how you feel about gifts I would say you should have your own shower.  Sounds like something laid back with close family and friends would make you most comfortable.  

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@d_mari3: No problem. Yeah I get what you mean about things being taken the wrong way. It’s hard to convey ideas properly sometimes over the internet and everyone reads what you say with their own voice.  

Considering what you’ve said about your style of wedding and how you feel about gifts I would say you should have your own shower.  Sounds like something laid back with close family and friends would make you most comfortable.  

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Sorry I seem to be leaving a trail of double posts today.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Sharing bridal showers because two wedding dates happen to be close to each other is like celebrating Halloween and Thanksgiving on the same day because they’re only a couple weeks apart. Really? Shall we throw in Christmas, too? For convenience sake? They’re completely separate holidays for a reason — we are celebrating completely different things. So, why in the hell do people suddenly think it is okay to jam together two bridal showers? Convenience? Sorry, celebrating an individual trumps convenience in my book.

Nope. I wouldn’t share. You’re entitled to the shower that makes you feel most comfortable and it is about celebrating YOU…not you and so-and-so because it is convenient time-wise. I hope your own shower can be arranged for you.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@d_mari3: why on earth would your aunt ask that?

Crazy! and no I wont share.

Had there been pressing issues or reasons then I would consider it. For your reasons never. you are not a bridezilla 😀

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’ll share with Fiance at our Jack n Jill, but I don’t think I would be happy about sharing with another bride. 🙂

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would love a double bridal shower!  I think its perfect for cousins!  I would say yes.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

wow I see I’m in the minority now.  To me a bridal shower is an event in your engagement life.  It’s also typically a family affair.  Lots of people say that they feel put up on a pedastal or on the spot – especially when opening gifts.  To me, it seems like having someone else there to ooh and aww over makes it more casual but no less special.  Its just my personality to enjoy this type of gathering.  I’m not huge into making it about me .  I had mine at a nails salon where we did our pre wedding mani/pedis the day before the wedding.  It was just my bridesmaids, 2 aunts, 2 female cousins, mother and grandma.  No women from Darling Husband side could come and no other girl friends were invtited.  It was simple and enjoyable. 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I would only share a bridal shower if we had a similar guest list, and it sounds like you don’t. I think it would be awkward as a guest to go to a bridal shower for someone I don’t know, even if I knew one of the brides. I wouldn’t know if I should buy them a gift, and I def wouldn’t want to!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think you should share a bridal shower. You should have one with the people you want to be invited and she should have one with who she wants to be invited. I think it gets sticky with the gifts too.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would share a bridal shower with a close friend for sure. However in your situation I would not. You seem to be two totally different people wanting different types of shower’s why should you have to settle for what she wants. Have your own shower you are not a bridzilla.

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