Post # 137
I think the right thing to do is to serve guests what they would like rather than what the couple likes. That’s just good manners.
However, I know how a lot of vegetarians are and would expect their ideology to trump their guests comfort. I’ve been to wedding in the past where this has happened. Everyone went out to eat afterwards.
Post # 138
I love the pizza station idea!
DH and I are both vegan, and we won’t be serving any animal products whatsoever (our cake will even be vegan!) to a family if meat lovers.
Although it is courteous to serve meat at meat eaters do vegetarian food at their weddings, I think you’re allowed to serve whatever you want. You said you want it to be cheap, so you shouldn’t be obligated to spend anything padt your budget just because some people can’t go a day without meat on their plates. They aren’t strict carnivores as vegetarians/vegans are strictly meatless, so I don’t see what the big deal is.
Post # 139
You’re feeding them, you make the choice. If you keep obsessing over the minority (in this case the people who will bitch about lack of meat), you’re not gonna have a good time. People are not there to have a burger, they are there to celebrate a union. I got over the whole super-accomodate everyone…I’ll accomodate you within reason! There is no reason why anyone should think there would be meat served at a Vegetarian’s wedding! I don’t expect Spanish food at an Indian wedding….Just provide good tasting food and they will forget about meat. 🙂
Post # 140
@lampshade: I would absolutely not expect meat to be served at a vegetarian wedding. I went to a friend’s wedding in March. Both bride and groom are vegan and strongly disagree with eating meat for moral reasons. No one expected meat to be served. They had a buffet and served a ton of different types of pasta and side dishes along with salads and dessert. It was great food and I heard no complaints. The group of 10 I was with were all meat eaters. We stayed in a cabin that weekend (because it was out of town) and had burgers the day before. No one felt deprived of meat because we didn’t have it for ONE meal.
I can’t believe people don’t see the difference in not serving something for moral reasons and not serving something because of preference. Being a vegetarian might not be for religious reasons, but if it is against someone’s values to do something, I would never expect them to do it at their wedding. I have a couple of friends who do not drink. It’s not because of religious reasons, but they dislike the way people act when drunk, have alcoholism in their families, and it makes them uncomfortable to be around people who are intoxicated. I would never expect them to serve alcohol at their wedding (religious or not). Just like when they come to my wedding they will expect an open bar.
None of the people I’m close with would complain about pizza. And, honestly, I wouldn’t want to be friends with people who would be upset about something as silly as not having a meat option at a wedding.
Post # 141
Okay, chiming in here as a meat eater, but I felt a need to reply to the “meat eaters offer vegetarian options, so vegetarians should offer meat options” argument being repeated throughout this thread. It is complete and utter bull. Meat eaters are perfectly capable of eating vegetables. Vegetarians and vegans, on the other hand, will become physically ill if they eat meat (some even get sick from eating food with meat-based broth in it), especially if they have followed a meat-free diet for a long time. Their bodies lose the ability to digest and process meat and meat-derivatives safely. Vegetarians who decide to go back to eating meat after years of a non-meat diet have to start out slowly and build up their tolerance to it (pescetarians usually don’t have as much trouble, likewise ovo-lacto-vegetarians have a head start on others). So a meat eater refusing to offer a vegetarian option to a vegetarian guest is actually saying, “I am not going to provide any food that you are physically capable of eating at my event.” By comparison, a vegetarian not offering meat to a meat-eating guest is saying, “I am asking you to accept the somewhat restricted selection of food that I am providing at my event so that I do not have to feel like I have compromised my lifestyle choice/beliefs.”
Post # 142
@lampshade: Heck no. There are lots of filling vegetarian dishes out there. As long as it’s something not too different for people. Like if I was serving something vegetarian to omnivores, I’d choose eggplant parm over something like lentil meatballs.