@lampshade: We have 3 pescatarian guests (out of 59 for the day and 100 for the evening), and have gonhe out of our way to accommodate them. Many couples provide just 1 veggie option; we have made sure that throughout the day, from the drinks reception to the evening buffet, that 50% of the options are suitable for pescatarians.
So, there is a fish option and veggie option during our drinks reception; and a small proportion of the other two options, which contain meat, are being modified so that they can also eat those. For our entree we have a chicken option, a red meat option, a fish option, and a veggier option, so again, they have two dishes to choose from. Etc. I have also contacted each of them directly to get an idea of their preferences, and to see if they have any intolerances (eg one has an intolerance to peppers, which I’m glad to know as I was considering something liked stuffed peppers as a starter; obviously that’s now out).
As a meat eater, I would expect the same courtesy to be extended to me, for the following reasons:
1) Vegetarianism is a preference. Humans are designed to eat meat, and the fact it can be difficult for vegetarians to eat a balanced diet demonstrates this.
2) I find it a case of double-standards: they would expect to be catered to, so, they should be prepared to cater to guests of theirs with different preferences in turn.
3) I find it preachy. Like it or not you aree making a moral/political statement by not including meat at your wedding. IMO a wedding is not the time or place for such a statement.
4) As mentioned by a previous poster, lots of people have intolerances or allergies to foods which are commonly used in vegetarian cooking. For example, I have to be very craeful with tomatoes and peppers, as both can trigger my endo symptoms (severe cramping, stabbing, twisting pains). I am also severely allergic to some meat substitues inc Quorn (and by severely allergic I’m talking extreme stomach pain, and continuous vomitting and diarrhea for a 24-36 hour period; it leaves me very ill for several days). I also know a lot of people who won’t eat mushrooms. I would likely find it a lot harder to find something to eat at a vegetarian wedding.