Post # 107
If my fiance hadn’t been against it I would have loved to have a pizza reception. Maybe get a salad option for people who don’t do gluten/ are trying to eat healthier and I think you’re on to something amazing. If anyone complains about the free food your giving them then they’re just being ungrateful. I put it on the same level of bad etiquette as a couple who complains about their gifts.
Post # 109
@gatorlovesturtle: Go girl!!! Im a meat eater, but I agree with you.
My aunt and uncle are pescatarians. Are you against seafood too? Just to clarify, because some people call themselves “vegetarians” but eat seafood, and then there are vegans, who wont eat dairy and all that jazz. Seafood may be expensive, but not if you buy the right kind.
Post # 110
@Liss13: Thanks 🙂 and nope I don’t eat any meat and my Fiance doesn’t either, both of us for moral reasons. You’d be surprised how many people I’ve met who’ve insisted that fish and chicken aren’t really meat though – some of them also claiming to be vegetarians. lol. Which I guess is part of the problem, it’s confusing for people who don’t have a lot of exposure to other diets to be told all these different things about vegetarains and than it only gets more confusing from there when you start talking about octo/lacto or vegan.
I’m honestly pretty cool about people eating whatever – I just don’t want to have to pay for it if it’s against my personal ethics. I explained it to my mom like this:
You wouldn’t be ok with serving horse or dog for an event because you think it’s wrong to eat them, a hindu/beef, jewish/pork ect… well I just feel that way about all animals.
Post # 111
I wouldn’t be offended but I would like to know in advance what the meal choice is so that if it’s something I can’t eat (I have a bunch of allergies to foods that are commonly found in vegetarian dishes) I can grab a bite to eat before the wedding. On a side note, I actually prefer even at weddings where meat is being served that they let you know what you’re getting, as in not just beef or chicken but somehow letting us know if it’s chicken stuffed with mushrooms (one of my allergies) or whatever.
Post # 112
If guests are offended or angry that a vegetarian of many years didn’t provide them with meat for one meal, that’s too bad. They should just be gracious. This whole “vegetarianism creeping into other peoples’ lives” argument is absurd. Just be nice and eat your food and celebrate with your friends. Man, the things people get worked up about!
Post # 113
I must say, I’m a little surprised to read some of the feelings on this topic.
I have a couple things to add. I am not a vegetarian but I’m fairly health conscious and I try to eat local hormone free meats. As a result, I often opt for the vegetarian option. Sure, it is my perence, but it is a preference based on the preservation of my health. Like how I choose not to consume pesticides or wear lotions and things that have goodness what in them. Sure, it is based on a personal choice, but it is a well founded personal choice and one that should be supported in a public venue like a wedding. Its not fair to starve people because they’ve made an educated decision based on health or religion or morals or whatever.
“Meat-eaters” as we so aptly call them in this thread, are just people who like meat. There is no reasonable health or moral or religious or any reason to eat meat at every single meal of everyday. Some people like pasta, fish, potatoes, any number of things. A large group of people liking something does not mean you have to serve it to them. If you are a long time vegetarian, I think I would be more confused if you DID have meat at your wedding. If you went to an East Indian wedding and didn’t get beef, you wouldn’t be offended but if they served beef you would probably make wild eyes and wonder what the heck is going on!
Its a pretty big rule in our book. We don’t abandon what we believe in to accomodate every pson’s whim. Meat isn’t water or anything..
Post # 115
@Ruby-Redshoes: should a couple then not force their guests to listen to a religious (or atheist) ceremony bc it’s forcing their beliefs on guests who don’t agree?! It saddens me that people can’t go one day without meat. For the majority of human history in most regions throughout the globe, people did not eat meat every single goddamn meal. Crikey.
Post # 116
@lampshade: I would probably be confused if I showed up at a vegetarian’s wedding and there was meat. It would be like walking into a Jewish celebration and expecting bacon. No. Just, no.
Whatever you serve, just make it filling, delicious, and hearty.
Post # 117
I absolutely do not think that you should have to serve meat. No matter what you serve someone is not going to like whatever it is anyways, wether it be because its meatless, they dont like pizza etc… You cannot expect everyone to be thrilled but it is a free dinner for them. I would recommend letting everyone know what is on the menu in advance so if they have a problem with something or feel like not eatting meat will not fill them up they can eat a larger lunch, or a snack before they get there. It’s one meal, people do not need meat.
Post # 118
Also, I like to go to weddings where the choices made (including the food) reflect the couple rather than are made so that the majority of people there like it. I like to think that you should go to a wedding and learn a little bit more about the couple/their ideas/lifestyle etc or if you know them intimately could say this could only be so and sos wedding!
Post # 119
@Honeyblood: That’s inaccurate. Vegitarians are perfectly capable and equiped to consume meat. The choice they make to not eat meat is a choice, it’s not because they’re allergic it’s because they choose not to eat meat. If I’m hosting an event, and the majority of my guests like chicken, but I hate it, I’m going to serve what the majority would prefer, that’s just common courtesy. You host an event for the guests, and should cater to the guest’s likes and dislikes.
Post # 120
@drummerbride: If there were observant Jews in your guest list and the majority of your guests prefered pork, would you only serve pork because Jewish guests not eating pork is a choice?
Post # 121
If a vegetarian is morally opposed to eating meat/factory farming it would be wrong to expect them to purchase meat for you. Since most of us don’t slaughter our own animals, purchasing meat is tantamount to eating it in terms of impact on animals/environment because it is the PURCHASING that drives the trade, not consumption. Eating meatless pizza for one night would be fine/delicious.