(Closed) Would you expect meat from a vegetarian couple?

posted 9 years ago in Food
Post # 122
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Busy bee

No, anyone who can’t go one meal without meat is ridiculous and needs to see a nutritionist. Most people are vegetarians for ethical reasons. I wouldn’t expect a Mormon to serve caffinated beverages or alcohol at their reception. Vegetarianism borders on relgious belief as most vegetarians feel more connected to the animal world and chose to honor all beings on earth. There is no carnivore belief that is similar… and if there is I’m awfully terrified to meet one of them.

(Coming from a former vegetarian who missed bacon and now chooses sustainable/ethically raised meats- I wouldn’t serve Cowschwitz beef or KFC at my events).

Post # 123
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@SoupyCat:  Not at all. I would serve pork and also offer a kosher option for the Jewish guests. That’s the point though, being a courteous host means acknowledging others eating needs and offering an alternative option to those with other dietary needs. Not offering a meat option would be ignoring the dietary needs of the guests in attendance.  It would be akin to not offering an alternative option for those with allergies,  religious restrictions, or personal moral choices. If I neglected to offer a vegetarian option to the vegetarians in attendance, they could still eat the salad and side dishes, but that would be very rude and inconsiderate of me to my guests needs. The same is to be said for vegetarians not offering a meat option to meat eating guests. Meat is an important part of a balanced diet.

Post # 124
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3525 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I definitely wouldn’t expect it. People can live without meat for one meal. I’ve never met anyone with any dietary needs or ethical or religious views that mean they cannot go one meal without meat. 

Having some high quality meat substitutes might be a good idea, though.

Post # 125
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539 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I wouldn’t expect it. Although it think it’s interesting that I’ve seen vegetarians get worked up when there’s no vegetarian option. So shouldn’t it go both ways?

Personally, I wouldn’t care at all though. I don’t eat meat for every meal. I know that some people LOVE their meat though and might be disappointed- but tough luck for them! 

Post # 126
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Sugar bee

@drummerbride:  meat may well be an important part if the diet for you, but if you can respect a guest’s moral or ethical decision not to eat meat, why isn’t that same courtesy extended to the hosts? Would you, for instance, expect that this same observant Jewish couple, if they were the bride and groom, to serve pork, simply because it’s preferred by the guests? Or for a Mormon couple to serve alcohol, simply because their guests may want to drink some? i don’t know of anyone who has a moral/ethical/religious objection to vegetables. I would never expect a host to serve something that is against their moral/ethical/religious beliefs. 

Post # 127
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@SoupyCat:  you seem to mistake vegetarians for a religion. Your examples are all religious things except you’re trying to clump someone choosing to be vegetarian as a religious choice. Choosing to not eat meat is not anywhere near the same as being jewish and following the faith which includes not eating pork, or being mormon and not drinking caffine or alcohol.  Those are aspects of those religions, vegetarianism isn’t a religion.  So your whole argument is none existent.

Post # 128
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Sugar bee

@drummerbride:  Religion is a choice. Just like vegetarianism is a chocie. I would not expect or want someone to act against their morality (through a CHOSEN paradigm) on my behalf, whether I agree or not. If you insist people go against their morality, that is your choice on how you conduct yourself. 

 

Post # 129
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@RedPandas:  +1 I agree with the idea that if a vegetarian couples choses not to serve a meat option at their wedding, they really don’t have room to piss and moan about weddings not having a vegetarian option. Usually anyone can find SOMETHING to eat at a wedding. It might not be a large selection, or even an amazing selection, but you can typically find something. I have Celiac Disease, which means I cannot eat gluten. If I am going to an event where I do not know if there will be a suitable meal option for me, I will either eat before I go or pack myself my own “dinner” and eat it. Do I expect people to serve a gluten free option for me? No. Unlike vegetarians my not eating gluten is not a “lifestyle choice” but an actual medical one. I don’t think anyone should ever expect someone to cater to their diet for a wedding, but it IS a nice gesture.

So, to the OP: If you’re the type of vegetarian who expects that a vegetarian option be offered at a wedding (or is offended when one is not) then yes, I think you should extend the same curtosey you expect and offer a meat option.

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@SoupyCat:  So moral/ethical/relgious reasons not to eat/serve something trumps legitmate medical and health reasons not to eat something? Because last I checked a choice is optional, a medical or health reason is NOT. You need to get your priorities straight before you start trying to belittle others. My statement to the OP also reflects my opinion for anyone who EXPECTS meals to be catered to their needs. If you expect others to do it for you, then it is only fair that they expect it of you.

Post # 130
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

@lampshade:  Your marriage. Your party.

If you want pizza at a casual event, then call Costco or Sam’s Club and buy the best darn $9 pizzas around. You can get as many veggie pizzas, buy a few meat pizzas, get some salad, beer, wine and sodas and enjoy yourselves.

Your mom will fret at first but you know what will happen in the end? She’ll grab a plate, grab a slice, grab something to drink and socialize with the guests.

Post # 131
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3457 posts
Sugar bee

@GamersBride:  Of course not. I said in my previous posts that medical conditions need to be considered. I don’t know what your particular comment to the OP was, so I’m not going to address what you said. If someone can’t eat carbs for medical reason, for example, and they are attending a veggie wedding, they need to notify the hosts. 

I’m not sure what you seem so angry about.

Post # 132
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would be shocked to see meat at a vegetarians wedding. My understanding of this lifestyle is it is chosen for moral reasons. I would be disapointed to see the moral reasoning left behind because it is a wedding.  My best friend gave 3 options at her wedding and I didnt like any of them so I ate before. It is not a hard concept…dont like the food then eat before.  You cant please everyone so why kill yourself trying.

 

Post # 133
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I agree with others that say if a meat eating couple is expected to serve a vegetariain option then why should a vegetarian couple not serve a meat eaters option ? I don’t understand the double standard. 

Vegetarianism isn’t a religion or medical diagnosis that I have ever heard. It is a lifestyle choice just as meat eating is.

Receptions in my opinion are supposed to be celebrating and showing my guest that I am greatful to have them part of it. Having them go hungry would not be showing them I am greatful

Post # 134
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@lampshade:  I could live off of meat and I’d not have a probably and would totally expect no meat at a vegetarian couple’s wedding.  Pizza sounds great to me!

Post # 136
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@lampshade:  I understand ….I guess I am a picky eater and a veggie pizza just wouldn’t cut it with me. 

I guess we just come from meat eating people and if I were to have a vegatarian wedding I would have many unsatisfied guest’s. 

I am of the mind that I want ALL  guest to be happy with full tummies. Tht is why I will have vegetarian options at my dinner.

 

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