(Closed) Would you expect the bride to pay for this?

posted 7 years ago in Beauty
  • poll: Should the bride pay?
    Yes, you should probably pay for them. : (31 votes)
    39 %
    No, they should understand that they have to pay for it. : (49 votes)
    61 %
  • Post # 4
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my SIL’s wedding and a friend’s wedding. I paid for my nails in both of their weddings. I don’t think it’s asking too much at all.

    Post # 5
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    If the outing is being given to them as an option (rather than part of the Bridesmaid or Best Man duties) then I’d expect to pay myself

    If you phrase it like, as part of being a Bridesmaid or Best Man we are doing x, I might think the bride was paying.

    Post # 6
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think it depends how you asked.  I’d have probably asked you though before committing as I wouldn’t want to pay for it.  If you invited me and the BMs I’d think it was a gift though. 

    Post # 7
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    6825 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    For my wedding I let the BM’s know if they wanted their nails done they had to pay for themselves same went with hair and make up.

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I totally agree with “it depends how you asked”, so it’s really hard to answer this question!

    Post # 8
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my sister wedding and she invited us all to go and told us we could get a pani/pedi and that as her gift to us she was paying for our mani.  I think it was $12 a bridesmaid.  Anyone else who wanted a pedi paid themselves.  I thought that was a nice way of doing it and its not going to brake the bank!  Thats what I plan on doing. 

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’m with the others.. It is all how you phrase it, for example- “Join us for a girls day with mani/pedi’s, I would bring my own money. But if you say all bridal party mani/pedi’s, Friday at 8, I would expect it as a gift.

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    If someone invites me out, I expect them to pay. If we mutually make plans together, we expect to split the check. I’ll pay if I ask someone to go somewhere with me. Of course, these are just my expectations, and we can discuss alternatives. I feel like in this situation, since it wasn’t discussed and you booked it all, I would be expecting you to pay. Especially since there is the added power dynamic of a bride/BM relationship and it’s not just a regular social outing. I feel like if they have to pay, they should have been given to option to decline getting them done. I’d be annoyed if I showed up and wasn’t prepared in advance that I would have to pay. I don’t think it’s too much to ask them to pay, but be sure to clarify this expectation (since it seems like this was already planned) and at least give them a heads up and the option to cancel.

    ETA — the text sounds good. “we’re going here if you want to come” doesn’t sound at all like you’re be paying since it’s optional.

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    If I was invited, I would expect the bride was paying.  This doesn’t mean that you have to pay, you just need to make it clear when you’re asking.

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would send a reminder email/text and let them know what time etc and mention how much it will cost. If they say that they cannot afford that or what have you then take it from there.

    In my area it is expected that if the bride wants something done beauty wise for the day of then she is expected to pay for it.

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @napabridekelsey: Maybe you can say, if you are interested in getting a mani/pedi-they have a special for $35 or whatever.  Then I would know I was paying myself.  Oh, and I think it’s really good to give people the price upfront.  Because some places are $35 some are fancy places are $100!

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