Post # 31
Yes, regardless of venue I would assume that any event/party being hosted over a mealtime would serve a meal. I wouldn’t expect a sit-down dinner but I would at the very least assume there would be enough food (in quantity and variety) to equal a meal and would assume it would be buffet or station style.
ETA: Case in point….over Christmas one of our new neighbors hosted a Christmas party that started at 7:00pm. EVERYONE assumed there would be dinner (not a sit down, but enough food and big variety that it would equal dinner). We all showed up to find a sorry exuse for a table of apps that basically consisted of chips/salasa, mini brownies, fruit, veggies, and some spinach dip/toast (and literally ONE pie). We live in a private waterfront community, so it’s not like this was a budget party. 😉 It was clearly just poor hosting on their part. Several of us left early and called in takeout which my husband picked up and they all came to our house to eat dinner at 8:30pm because we were starving! We all assumed we’d be fed dinner at this party.
Post # 32
ArcadiaRose : I totally agree! It hadn’t even occurred to me until a friend (who had nibbles/finger food at her engagement party, which was later in the evening and at a bar) told me she assumed mine would be similar food…then I started worrying. The poll results indicate that most people see it the way you and I do! But I’ve seen enough to be worrying now, so I will be adding another line onto the invitation.
Post # 33
starfish0116 : Oh wow…that is awful hosting. I must admit, I do pride myself on benig a really good host which is something I learnt from my family. There is always enough food (usually too much!) and there is always something for everyone. It is a nightmare of mine to host people and to run out of food, or for people to leave feeling that I wasn’t generous (in food and in welcoming people)! However this party is the first ‘proper’ one I’ve thrown, at a venue that I’ve planned myself. I have people to my home often, and I plan events as part of my job. But this is my first big party of my own! My fiance and I have been to some events in the past and stopped for a sneaky McDonald’s on the way home, but if anyone felt it necessary to do that after something I’ve hosted I would be MORTIFIED!
Post # 34
Because it’s in a restaurant, I would assume there would be some food. Because of the time of the event, I would think it would likely be appetizers and desserts but I would hope the invitation would specify
Post # 35
I would assume their is food but sometimes people are shitty hosts these days so I would be cautious.
Post # 36
I’d just put something on the invites like “Join us for dinner and celebrations starting at 730” or something.
I would assume that there would be food, but I think saying “dinner” gets it across.
Post # 37
Why not change the time and possibly the venue to avoid ambiguity? And state on the invitation what type of food and drink will be served, i.e.- “cocktail reception” and hold it during cocktail hours? Or “please join us for cake and champagne immediately following” and make it 8:00 or later?
I have been to lovely small receptions at the church where the ceremony was done, just champagne and cake made by the bride. I’ve been to an open bar and appetizers for a cocktail reception at a restaurant (with smaller after party and more food following). Just went to a beautiful reception at the bride’s father’s home, appetizers from Costco, cake from Publix, self serve bar, and it was actually really nice! Second wedding on grooms boat, with drinks and appetizers dockside…Really, you don’t have to make it all about the food, but at least a drink to propose a toast with and some nibbles are expected at a wedding. Best wishes!
Post # 38
I have made my decision!!! Thank you to everyone for your input as it has helped me come to this conclusion:
I will be specifying that there will be a meal provided so people should arrive hungry, and that veggie, vegan, gluten free and dairy free diets will be catered for. I will add that if you have a requirement outside of that to include it with you RSVP. However, rather than putting this on the invitation (which is only small, A6 size) I am going to include it on a separate info card, that will also have numbers of recommended local taxi companies advising people to book in advance if they need one. I was going to do this anyway, as it is in a rural location so it’s crucial taxis are pre-booked, so it will work very well to put the food info on here too.
The overwhelming majority of people who took the poll agreed with my train of thought that they would assume they would be fed. However, I totally agree with everyone else that it isn’t worth the risk. Thank you all so much for your help, hope you all enjoy the rest of your Tuesday xx