(Closed) Would you feel competitive if there was another bride on your wedding day?

posted 6 years ago in Venue
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

There was another wedding at my venue on my day and I didn’t care. They used the ceremony space from like 2:00-3:00 and I got to start setup with plenty of time before the ceremony at 6:00. Then they had their reception in one banquet hall, and I had mine in the other. Didn’t care!

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

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ZebraPrintMe:  I once went to a wedding in the Chicago suburbs and the reception was at a massive banquet complex. There were 5 other receptions going on.  Everything sorta looked the same, 3 of the weddings were peacock themed and there was an open bar so it was REALLY easy to go into the wrong reception. I assumed places used being the only wedding as a selling point to avoid situations like that.  

there was a guy at the next table who didn’t realize he was at the wrong reception until the first dance. He was classy and left a monetary gift for them as he left. 

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I was not willing to have my wedding someplace that help two (or more) events in the weekend. I wouldn’t say I was “competitive” but just that I wanted my guests to be comfortable, only the people I knew and love to be around me, no one to complain about my guests making noise etc and definitely no one else using the same facilities.

 

I have been to wedding spaces with more than one wedding and you don’t get to choose who else is getting married at the same time… I have seen bathroom baskets stolen, fur coats gone missing, random unknown people at the open bar as well as things like having to wait in the hallway because my wedding was the ‘second’ wedding and the first wedding was still in the welcome space, having random kids running around unsupervised in the hallways, brides getting in each other pictures (or having to wait and loosing light) not to mention just some nasty stare downs and negativity

one particular wedding I went to had like 5 weddings per night in the hotel and it was crazy in the bar after! each wedding party was like stealing chairs out from under you if you stood up, the jukebox kept getting overridden, etc 

I just didn’t want any negativity if possible

 

Post # 19
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I wouldn’t have cared about the competition, but I liked the fact that we would have the entire building (golf clubhouse) and not have to share bathrooms or the kitchen staff being double worked. However… our wedding was a Friday and so many vendors kept assuming it was a Saturday. After having promised us the entire building, our venue went and invited club members to a Valentine’s day dinner that Friday, probably assuming our wedding was the next day. I know they fucked up because I am on the golf club mailing list… So I got the dinner invitation and then I emailed them about some wedding details, stressing the word ‘Friday’. Soon after I got an amendment to the dinner invitation with big red font saying the room had been changed for the dinner. So… we did have to share the bathrooms with these people during dinnertime. I was annoyed because they had assured me we’d have the place to ourselves, and then we didn’t. 

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

On my wedding day I wouldn’t want to see another bride. Yeah I know other people are gettihng married, but I want to feel extra special and exlcusive wearing my white dress. Now feeling competitive about the wedding itself (flowers, decor, cake etc) umm no.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I wouldn’t want another wedding going on but just for logistical issues like PPs have said.  I’ve been to weddings where there were other events going on at it always seemed to cause issues.  I remember one where all through the toasts you could hear the music from the wedding in the next room, very loud and distracting.  And their cocktail hour was in the same space at the same time, so it was really crowded, plus I’m pretty sure I ate some appatizers from the wrong wedding because we were all crammed in there together you couldn’t tell which was which.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I got married in Vegas, so there were brides all over the place! The night before my ceremony I saw a bride and groom coming out of the chapel I would be using. She looked lovely, and the venue looked awesome! Totally different than mine did the next day. When I was getting post-ceremony photos done, another newlywed couple walked past. It was fun ha.

Post # 23
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

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ZebraPrintMe:  Nope, wouldn’t have cared.

Now, the place I took my pics there was another wedding party that came, and they were quite obnoxious, so the bride’s entourage annoyed me for other reasons, but I wasn’t upset by another bride being at the same place I was taking pics at.

Post # 24
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

Actually there will be another wedding at our venue on our wedding day. i don’t care at all! I trust the venue will have adequate staff, both rooms are totally separate and entrance for each hall is on opposite sides of the building. I’d be curious to sneak a peek at their wedding just to see what they did differently. Kinda cool to know you share that day with another couple!

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Echoing PPs that “one wedding at a time” is about having the entire staff’s attention and quality service. Plus you want your guests to feel like it’s YOUR event. I’ve heard horror stories about wedding factories where multiple weddings are happening and things are disorganized. Also I read somewhere about guests from other weddings coming in to steal your stuff, e.g. welcome baskets in the bathroom. Not cool.

Post # 26
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I personally would not have wanted another wedding going on at the same time as ours. Our second choice venue had up to 3 ceremonies per day, and they were not spaced that far apart. I just think it would be a little odd for my guests to possibly be seeing some other wedding that day.

Post # 27
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

we had another wedding at our venue, but we never saw them until we were all at the hotel bar together afterward. I didn’t feel competitive at all- in fact, I was happy my guests were able to enjoy the music from their party when they were hanging out outside!

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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ZebraPrintMe:  I’m with you – I would never in a million years think about “competing” with another bride. As long as she/her wedding has/have her/their own space(s), no big deal. If I ran into her in a communal bathroom or something I’d be like “Hey! We look awesome! Congrats! Have fun!” lol

BUT I know that some girls are totally different. Example: We took our formal pictures at a state park (lake, gazebo, pretty trees, benches, etc). So of course I expected people to be there, but the park is huge so I figured we’d work around them. What I DIDN’T expect was for another wedding party to be there. At first I thought it would be cool and we’d wave to one another and share the “photo op” spots and everything would be cool.

Unfortunately, she had other ideas. Before she even realized my bridal party was there, I could hear her bitching and snapping at everyone around her as they took pictures. To make matters worse, I guess a local high school’s homecoming dance was that night, so there were some teenagers taking pictures and she was literally screaming at them to get “off of her gazebo.”

Ummmm ….. last time I checked, the state of Pennsylvania owns that gazebo. Sheesh.

I was more than willing to share the space (again, it’s a state park and there’s plenty of room) but apparently she wasn’t. I just couldn’t understand why we couldn’t take turns (her party uses the gazebo while they use the bridge/lake, and then switch, etc).

My party and photographers managed to work around her bitchiness (because we were more flexible) but I just couldn’t believe how she was screaming and yelling and complaining so loudly in the middle of a public place.

So while we may be more laid back, other brides ….. are not. lol

Post # 29
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I dno’t see how I even could be competitive with someone I don’t even know. 

I was in a wedding in July where the reception venue had three receptions going on. You didn’t know other’s were there unless you walked around which we did, to go see the gardens. Us and some people from another party had a great time razzing each other from a distance about wedding wars and making fighting signs towards each other lol.

We did have some crashers later that had to be dealt with. Very drunk ones.

Post # 30
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

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ZebraPrintMe:  We had a wedding in the next room. You could actualy see them through the glass door. I didn’t even give that other wedding a second thought because I was so busy with my wedding. The next day a few of our guests told us that they had made friends with a few of their guests 🙂 And we had a few crashers in our photo booth which I thought was pretty funny.

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