Post # 32
It depends on the situation, if she gave me a good reason for it and I felt sorry for her I’d probably put 2 gallons in her tank (but no way would I fill it up). I’ve been in a situation before where I lost my wallet and asked a stranger for $$ to get my car out of a parking lot and they were kind enough to give it to me (I wrote them a check, but for all they knew I was a scammer and the check would bounce).
Post # 34
Im from a large city, and thats a straight no. Things like that never happen here anyway. Public transit is everywhere. I’d be more inclined to give them the $2 bus fare. However, unless she was driving a hummer/mustang that gets 8 miles to the gallon she wouldnt need a full tank to ge 30 miles worth.
Post # 35
Yeah, unless she gets one mile per gallon, that just doesn’t make any sense. I would have said no, and been indignant she tried to pull one over on me.
Post # 36
I was going to post the same thing! I am from a very small town but I am incredibly jaded. I wouldn’t have filled their tank or given them money.
Post # 37
@Mrs_Amanda: If I was caught in that situation I wouldn’t know what to say. I’m used to being approached by homeless people on the streets asking for a few bucks, but never in my life have I heard of someone asking you to fill up their car for them. I want to say that they were extremely presumptuous and rude… but I guess I’ve never been poor so I don’t know what I’d do if God forbid I were in that situation. But the fact that they do have a car indicates they’re not as badly off as some!
I think you need to try to put it out of your head. You don’t owe them anything and this could have even been a scam. Who knows. You do your part for charity and it’s not your job to help everyone out who asks. Hell, they could have stolen your car while you were filling up their car for them.
I am uneasy being approach by any stranger. As a female by yourself (safety point of view) I say you did the right thing.
Post # 38
Maybe the fact that we don’t live in a super large city is what was throwing me off! I don’t even think our little college town has public transport.
Post # 39
I prefer to do charity rather than give charity. I’d rather volunteer than hand out money. So I also would have said no right away, but I wouldn’t have felt guilty about it because I know I give in other ways.
Post # 40
So I totally misread the OP. I thought it said “get out of town” and apparently I completely glossed over the 30 miles part. Considering those details, she’d get a big ole’ “fuck no” from me and I wouldn’t feel a shred of guilt about it. I’ve driven almost 15 miles on empty so requireing a full tank to go twice that far is absolute bullshit.
Post # 41
Nope. I would probably give her a few bucks and wish her good luck, but not use my card in any way and she’s not getting a full tank from me!
Post # 42
i would not and i wouldn’t feel guilty either.
i work at a gas station. i see a LOT of people that solicite for gas money.
Post # 43
One more for a New Yorker. I’ve always lived in big cities so I am inured to pleas like these. I wouldn’t give, I wouldn’t feel guilty. I honestly wouldn’t even think about it after the interaction. However, as @UpstateCait:
said, I would give if I saw that she seemed desperate for it. But um, fill up your gas tank? Don’t know about that. Oh, I would swipe you with a metrocard if I have an unlimited card though
Post # 44
I would not have done it. It isn’t even about the money. These are strangers that I don’t know and I don’t know their intentions. I would not walk away from my car and walk over to where a stranger has theirs at a gas station. Shady things can go down at gas stations and I’m not taking a chance on my safety (or that of my credit card.. you hear some shady things about that too).
ETA: I was coming from the mindset of not having cash on me since I never do and I always pay with debit or a credit card for the gas station I use.
Post # 45
I agree. If town was 30 miles, I may have given 5-10 dollars at most, especially if she was in a car. If she was totally empty, it would have gotten here there. But don’t feel shamed or guilty; I don’t like to be put on the spot either. My fi gets to work at 4am and said a woman hysterically asked him for money one time because had come from Georgia and was trying to get to NJ (we’re in VA) in her very nice car. He said no because he was totally thrown off that she would be parked at his workplace at 3:45am… sort of a different situation, but still, I think I may have said no as well. And cheers to being charitable in other times. Don’t let yourself feel guilty, though it only means you care.
Post # 46
I would have put $5-10 in her car for her. Not cash, and not filled it up.
Growing up in big cities, I never would have done anything like that before. But while we were dating, my husband made a reference to Matthew 25 –
37 “Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? 38 When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? 39 When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?’
40 “The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’
Anyway, it kind of changed my thinking. Not that I am afraid of going to hell if I don’t help people out, but it just taught me compassion, I guess.
Of course, like I said before, I’ve grown up in big cities, so I have my guard up and can usually tell it someone is a threat to me. If they scam me, I’d rather lose the money than refuse to get it to someone who really needs it.