Post # 1
My Cousin recently got engaged. She is throwing a huge bash for an enagegement party which is also a house warming party for the new house that she built with her now FI. Thing is everyone in my immediate family has been invited, my mum and dad, my sisters….everyone but me…..
When I saw everyone else had recieved these lovely little invites but I had been excluded….all I could think was……wow, guess I get what your trying to say about how you must feel about me.
Would you feel offended if you were the only one left out of your side of the family??
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Um, yes I would be offended! How rude!
Post # 4
Are you sure it didn’t get lost in the mail?
Post # 5
I’m sure it was just an accidental oversight. We’re having a brunch the day after my wedding and my mom accidently forgot to include one of my cousins on the invite list. When you’re trying to list out a bunch of people, you’re bound to accidently miss one. I caught the error when I was reviewing the list for her but it was certainly nothing intentional on her part. I’m sure this is the same.
My other thought. Do you live close to this cousin or is the rest of your family located significantly closer than you? If this is the case, they may have only invited in-town or in-state people or whatever, not wanting people to feel like they needed to travel far to come.
Post # 6
That is really rude and inconsiderate, especially with family! Darn right I would feel like an outcast! I would be vehement!
Post # 7
My cousin lives in another state. My Parents, Sisters and myself all live within 10 minutes of each other. All the invites were sent in one envelope together care of my parents…..but none for me…….
Post # 8
I’d have your mother call her mother and casually bring it up.
Post # 9
I agree with beekiss2, maybe yours just didn’t make it into the envelope??? Cause that just seems odd. I hope that it was just an oversight 🙂
Post # 10
I would be very offended. This actually happened to me. My cousin was getting married and invited my mom and some other close family to her bacholette party. Leaving out me. I really dont see someone inviting your sister and not you. When I think of my cousin I think of all her family not just a select few…
Post # 11
I can’t believe it isn’t an error on someone’s part.
Post # 12
I’d imagine that it must have gotten lost unless you have some sort of history with this cousin where you think she might not invite you.
Post # 13
I also want to believe it was an innocent oversight. While my reflex would be to be offended, I think you or your mother should bring it up to be sure. These are the kinds of things that can fester and create resentment, which would be a shame if it is a mistake.
I’m so sorry you have this going on – good luck!
Post # 14
That doesn’t make any sense maybe you should confront her?
Post # 15
It’s probably an error. I’d talk to my mom about it and see if she could quietly deal with finding out for you. Imagine how horrified your cousin would be if you “contronted” her about a simple oops!
Post # 16
Thanks for all your replies ladies, I’m not going to confront my cousin about it. I am really not a confrontational type person. But I do feel extremely stung by the action.
I don’t have history with this cousin, but she has always lived in another state (18 hours drive away), so we aren’t really all that close either. We don’t contact each other to catch up or anything llke that.
My sister is actually closer in age to my Aunt then she is to me, and for a few years in her teens my Aunt lived with my Mother as she had problems at home. That was before I was born. So my Sister and my Aunt have always been alot closer then my Aunt and myself. Maybe thats the reason.
I am also due to have a baby just 1 week after the engagement party…..maybe they figured I wouldnt come and didnt send one. But that also upsets me because instead they are asking my whole family and the majority of my support network to leave town when I am due and will need them the most. And because it is such a long trip I have heard mention of them wanting to make a holiday out of it if they go, which is also upsetting.
I havent raised the issue with my Mum….every time I think about doing that I think I will sound stupid and childish. I spoke about it with my FI, he suggested maybe my cousin is upset that she didn’t recieve an invite to my engagement party……but I didn’t have one or anything even resembling one……so I’m not sure what point he was trying to make there…..
Family can be so confusing and frustrating at times