Post # 1
normally, i don’t mind if my husband and i have to share sleeping space with others, but it’s always been in “neutral territory” (like crashing in someone’s living room or a hotel), not in our own bedroom. i just feel like our room is our private, personal space and should be somewhat off limits.
recently my husband’s (big!) family came to visit us. originally, my mother in law was supposed to sleep in one of the spare bedrooms, but my husband decided to switch some things around and ended up putting his mom in our room with us. he asked me about it in the presence of the family, so i couldn’t really say, “no, i don’t like that idea.” i didn’t want to come across as being a rude hostess. the only other option was to put her in the living room where all the kids were sleeping and he didn’t want to do that.
i’ll admit, it wasn’t as awkward as i thought it was going to be, but i was still a little uncomfortable. my husband and i don’t have a real bed right now; we just have our mattress on the floor. so it was weird for me to have my husband on one side and my mother in law two feet away from me on an air mattress. oh, and don’t get me started on the snoring that was coming from both of them, lol.
anyway, would this make anyone else uncomfortable or am i just weird? lol
Post # 3
I don’t want to share my room with my parents nor do I want to share theirs. Yup, couldn’t do it!
Post # 5
From the title, I thought you meant offering your bedroom to visiting parents while you sleep somewhere else. I wouldn’t have an issue with that but I would be uncomfortable actually sharing a bedroom with my parents (and extremely uncomfortable with in-laws!)
Post # 6
Oh. Hell. No. That would never happen.
Post # 7
Uhhhhhhh… yup. I’d get them a hotel room.
Post # 8
That would be super weird for me. I have shared hotel rooms with my parents and my future inlaws, but never our room. So so weird!
Post # 9
Really awkward…kind of cruel (or just oblivious!)of him to ask you in front of others! But hey, now you’ve crossed that barrier 😉
Post # 10
If it’s not a long term thing, I wouldn’t give it a second thought. Annoying, yes, but not worth stressing over. A couple of days, I could handle. More than that? I probably would fuss (but then again, so would my FMIL!)
Post # 11
That would weird me out, the only time I would ever give up our bedroom for a guest would be if they had some kind of back problem and couldn’t afford a hotel room.
Post # 12
after everyone left and we were getting ready for bed, i asked him if we could please avoid having parents in our bedroom with us in the future and he didn’t understand what was wrong with it. he thinks i just have a problem with his mom and that if it was my mom it wouldn’t bother me, but that’s not true. i would not want my parents in our room with us and i know my mom would be uncomfortable with it too.
my mother in law said she was fine sleeping in the living room (where there was still enough room for her), but my husband insisted that it was ok for her to be in our room.
Post # 13
@lilchicana: We had to share a hotel room with my grandmother recently that had two queen beds in it. It was a little weird at first but we all slept fine. We are around each other every day and generally comfortable around each other.
I wouldn’t feel comfortable with our family sleeping in the same bed with us though.
Post # 14
No way would I let that happen our bedroom is just that our’s.
Well done to you being a great host I’m not sure how I would have handled it.
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@lilchicana: We don’t share but I do offer our king sized bed over the guest room’s queen. Thankfully my parents have never taken me up on the offer.
Post # 16
We’ve offered our actual room to my parents – they always decline. His dad, I woouldn’t offer (not the greatest relationship), his mom I’d make the same offer if it ever came up (she lives nearby).
In the same room…no, except for special circumstances (say all together on vacation, but even now I’d pay the money for a real hotel room, or maybe all over at a house for a funeral or something). That’s too uncomfortable.