(Closed) Would you file for divorce?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: What would you do?
    File for Divorce : (18 votes)
    14 %
    Stay and Work on the Marriage : (15 votes)
    12 %
    Seperate until he seeks help and keeps his promise : (25 votes)
    20 %
    Seek therapy and deal with the decision you made to marry this man : (20 votes)
    16 %
    Other: explain below : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Would have never married him in the first place (edit) : (48 votes)
    38 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3012 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’d kick his ass then separate to figure things out.

    Post # 4
    Member
    3004 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I think that staying with someone who has emotionally cheated on me would be extremely hard but I think I would try to stick it out as long as possible. After all I am strongly of the opinion I could never divorce Fiance unless there was some sort of abuse or physical cheating. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    221 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I would have never married him. Too many people take marriage too lightly. If you cant keep it together and not cheat when your dating, how the hell are you gonna do it when married and have stress and children!! I say let him go , he doesnt love you the way he should!!!!!

    Post # 7
    Member
    221 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @SweetRose2011: If your man had a relationship with another woman, but hadnt sealed the deal you would keep him around! I think giving your heart to someone else is way worse then a random drunken sex.. JUst saying… i would kill my man and divorce him for both!!

    Post # 8
    Member
    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I don’t feel sorry for her one bit.  She owes it to both of them to work on it and forgive. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    3012 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @Talishazwi: Really?  Because he’s the one who admitted he loved the attention and has done it in the past.

    Post # 11
    Member
    5572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think that I’d probably stick it out and work on it. That kind of thing can be extremely painful though and I’m not sure if I could trust him again any time soon.

    Post # 12
    Member
    3004 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    @jenlee1:I would try to work it out to find out why he did what he did. Maybe we need to work on our communication or something. I mean after all she could’ve been slacking off in working on their relationship as well, it’s a two way street. 

     

    @mwitter80:Oh, I definitely wouldn’t have gone through with it if I had found out before the wedding. She just set herself up for a lifetime of struggles. I just feel like her knowing before hand should have signaled something to her. It’s definitely more embarrassing to get a divorce because you are to oblivious and decide to get married anyways. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @mwitter80: re: “he liked the way she made him feel”.  

    I remember listening to Dr. Laura talk about why men cheat.  She said it wasn’t about the way the other woman looked (often they aren’t as attractive as the spouse/partner)- it was all about they way the woman made him feel.  

     

    Post # 15
    Member
    2538 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    I put file for divorce, but I think she’s equally a part of the problem!  If she’s crazy jealous and can’t trust him to change, she needs to end it.

    Post # 16
    Member
    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @mwitter80: stuff like this just serves as a reminder to make sure our own relationships are given the time and attention they need.  Everyone talks about how much work marriage is – and it really does take a lot of time and selflessness.  The work is worth it, but I could see how neglect and being unfulfilled make people stray (not justifying it by ANY means).

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