(Closed) Would you find this weird?

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 18
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If it makes you happy, do it. I’m so sorry for your loss.

Post # 19
4766 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I had my Fiance read this since he’s a major cat lover.  He says:

tell her to but some of the ashes in a locket and wear the locket, this way the cat can be there with here that day.


Post # 20
2319 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am so sorry for your loss! Cry

(And no, don’t do the ash box. Choose from any of the other ideas that the PPs have mentioned.)

Post # 21
1870 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

you already got good advice, but I’m sorry about your loss. What a beautiful cat!

Post # 22
68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Maybe you can set up a little memory table for him (at your reception maybe?) with a framed photo and the box.  Maybe people would be less weirded out by that than using it as the pillow.  Although, I personally think that you can do whatever your heart says and who cares what anyone else thinks. 

So sorry for your loss <3  

Post # 23
922 posts
Busy bee

I’m going against all the other posts here and saying: no it’s not weird. My SO and I are huge animal lovers and consider our dog family. If she were to pass I would have her ashes on the mantel and that in and of itself is a pretty strange concept, so how weird is it to have them at your wedding? To me, not very weird.

If a family member dies people honor them at weddings in their own special way all the time. Why not honor your lost loved one in this way? He was part of your family unit and you want him represented that day. If this is what you want to do I say do it and forget about what the rest of us have to say. We don’t know you or your Fiance and after all it is YOUR wedding. I say do it. I would.

Post # 24
427 posts
Helper bee

So sorry! I have four cats myself and I love them to pieces. The idea of the ring pillow is excellent! However, carrying his ashes in a box would be totally acceptable in my opinion. I don’t find it gross or creepy. It’s not like you are carrying a corpse….RIP Sly!

Post # 26
5653 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Maybe I am weird, but I don’t think that’s weird at all.

Sorry for your loss.

Post # 27
546 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think the pillow sounds like a great idea! Sly was a family memeber and you should definitly incorporate him in somehow.

We have two  kitties (Salem Spookypants and Snowy Snugglepants) and although they are both trained to walk outside on leashes, I’m not too sure how we want them incorporated in our wedding. They mean the world to us, so I feel for your situation and somehow made myself cry by reading your post!!



Post # 28
827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Sorry, but that is too bizzarre. It seems like some sort of ritual offering.

Why don’t you do something else like hang a charm from your bouquet, maybe his name tag?

Post # 29
7605 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

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@Zusie: These suggestions were already made….8 months ago.  OP already said a couple of times what she decided to do.

Post # 30
425 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Im very sorry for ur loss.. it must have been so hard for you … and honestly, I do find a bit weird.. ( sorry ) but You can have him there if you really want, some bees had some great ideas- like havin his pic there on the table, with the ring box or wearing a locket.. Or if you want, this may sound weird too, but the pillow that the ring will be rested on, you can have his picture printed on it?



Post # 31
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

its your day and all but my honest opinin yes I do think its weird… why dont you just have a pic of him and a memeoral candle on a table?

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