(Closed) Would YOU get an engagement ring your boyfriend hates?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you get a ring if your SO hates it?

    Yes

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    It depends

  • Post # 31
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    Blushing bee

    My fiance asked my sister to ask me (without me knowing) if I wanted him to pick out my e-ring or me pick out my ering. She sneakily brought it up in conversation one day. I was very frank and said that I wanted to pick out my engagement ring. I had another ring as a gift from someone which I did not like very well and would have picked something different if I had the choice. Had I known she was going to report this back to Fiance I would have been softer about it lol. So, Fiance brought me to a jewellery store one day and told me to pick out a ring – he did not want to get something I didn’t like. And getting back to your question, I don’t think Fiance would care what my ring looked like as long as I loved it.

    Post # 32
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    Bumble bee

    Definitely not. He’s giving it to me, technically. 

    I know he wants me to love it, but I can’t if I know he hates it. Fortunately, we have the same taste.

    Post # 33
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    As far as Im concerned, no man should even say ”I hate that ring” in some attempt to guilt you away from getting something like that. Its like when people go Wedding Dress Shopping and their mother or someone clearly sees that you love the dress and they STILL say ”That dress is horrible”. To me thats rude and uncalled for and not fair. With that said, I think he genuinely meant that you should get what you like since YOU are the wearing it and to me the best thing to do is just go looking at rings. Let him see what you like, try some rings on. If your man sees that you totally love a ring, he will love it too, regardless of whether he truely likes the ring or not and thats what our men are supposed to do.

    Post # 34
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    i wouldn’t get something he hated. Yes, i have to wear it for the rest of my life but we both have to look at it, and he bought it. Thankfully, when we went ring shopping we found a ring we both loved! 

    Post # 35
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    My Fiance always told me he wanted me to be completely happy with my ring, so he asked me to show him styles I liked. He was always very attracted to solitaires, but I love halos, so that’s what I got. He is still very proud of the ring he got me, and I love seeing how proud he is when people compliment me on it. He always says “thank you” before I get a chance. I would certainly think twice if he hated a ring I liked. 

    Post # 36
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    It depends. I’d aim for a compromise!

    The halo ring you posted is gorgeous though.

    Let him hate on it 

    Post # 37
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    367 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’d like to say that “yes” I would still get a ring even if my bf didn’t like it, but deep down I know that I’d want his blessing. I want my bf to like the ring I’m going to wear for the rest of my life. 

    Post # 38
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    Newbee

    I always envisioned an asscher solitaire in a Roseco plain cathedral setting, but Fiance chose a diamond band with a round center and engraved details on the profile. I NEVER would have chosen it for myself but I love it, mostly because he chose it and spent a lot of time and effort to find it. 

    Post # 39
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

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    GirlyGirl24:  I didnt get a say in my rings at all. I love my ring because its what my husband gave to me to symbolise our love. But i would have preferred to have picked it out. We have very different tastes in rings lol. I would pick something you love even if your guy doesnt think the world of it. YOU have to wear it your entire life! YOU should LOVE it!

    Post # 41
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    Busy bee

    I wouldn’t get a ring my SO hates (and we did go shopping together) because he won’t buy it for me 😛

    Which is okay, we seem to have come to a good compromise and I’m looking forward to it!

    Post # 42
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    My husband hates halos. He bought my ring. We didn’t even consider halos. 

    Post # 44
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Although he is the one spending money and it’s a promise of your love, its still a gift. I have never NOT bought someone a gift because its something I didn’t like.. 

    It should reflect your taste. You are going to be wearing it forever, not him so I don’t see why what he likes should play into it at all. I’m surprised he has such a strong feeling of dislike towards a style of ring. My fiance couldn’t care less what style I have on my hand, he was just happy we’re getting married.

    But if it’s important to you that he likes it (which is what really matters-how YOU feel about the situation) is there a secondary style that you love almost as much as the halo?

    Post # 45
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

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    GirlyGirl24:  That ring is GORGEOUS! I have a oval halo too..not as big as that though! **DROOLS**

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