Post # 1
Five years ago I went to a wedding at a beautiful venue. I used to work as a DJ and one of my favorite bartenders invited me to his wedding. I quit DJ’ing within the year and pretty much never see the bartender anymore. We are still friends on Facebook and Instagram and same goes for the woman he married. We have a lot of mutual friends on social media but none in real life anymore. They recently got divorced and judging from what I see on social media it was pretty ugly.
We are on the hunt for our wedding venue now. My question is do you think it’s OK to consider their venue, or is that weird? It was gorgeous. Do any of you supersticious brides think it’s bad luck to get married there since they got divorced? What say the bees? We’ve toward almost every venue in town. From my memory of the place it would be in top three. There’s not a ton of options that I like in town :/
Post # 2
mrsbrizz2017 : not weird at all. as far as superstition goes – i doubt you could find ANY wedding venue where someone who got married there didn’t wind up divorced. sad, but true.
Post # 3
It’s absolutely okay to consider the venue they used. Don’t let something silly like your friends using the same venue (even if they got divorced) keep you from finding your dream venue!
Post # 4
mrsbrizz2017 : I’m pretty sure you’d be looking forever if your criteria is a venue that hasn’t had any marriages result in divorce…
No, it’s not weird. In fact I recommend my venues to anyone I know who is getting married – I loved them, why wouldn’t I want to send more business their way? I’d recommend all my other vendors too! Heck, I would love to be a guest at a replica of my wedding, all of my guests had a great time.
Post # 5
mrsbrizz2017 : I mean, any venue that has ever been used for a wedding has a divorced couple under it’s belt. If there hasn’t ever been a wedding there, chances are it’s been the location of at least one breakup. Go for it.
Post # 6
If either half of the divorced couple were invited to the wedding, it might be awkward for that person, but since that’s not the case, I see absolutely no problem with it. Probably every wedding venue has seen its share of couples that later divorced.
Post # 7
You are reading waaaay too much into the past. If you like the venue then go for it.
Post # 8
That’s true that every venue has had divorces. I just felt a little weird because my instinct is to selectively block at least the two of them from being able to see anything we post that labels us as being at the venue. I’m probably way overthinking it.
Post # 9
It’s perfectly fine and you are way overthinking this.
Is everyone on your FB friends list being invited to the wedding? I wouldn’t be posting anything about the details of your wedding or where it’s being held either way.
Post # 10
I would if I loved the venue. Not off limits!
Post # 11
I got married at the same venue where my (still married) BFF got married 9 years before. Same venue, completely different events. I doubt it would be bad juju for you, and from what it sounds like, you’re not inviting either of the divorced people right? Yeah, not a big deal at all.
Plus, I think you’ll be hard pressed to find a venue on Earth where someone didn’t marry and then end up divorced. Or dead. Or whatever. I always say, “The whole world is a graveyard for somebody.” <basically, there are no places anywhere that are 100% exempt from the darker sides of life…that doesn’t mean you can’t use them for the best things.
ETA: I wouldn’t post anything about your wedding on FB regardless of whether the two of them see it. You shouldn’t rub it in people’s faces who might not be invited, and for those that are, you need to save some element of surprise for them as guests. Plus, you are basically signing up for unwanted input the minute you put it on social media. Steer clear sister.
Post # 12
I don’t think it’s off limits but I personally would try to look other places first.
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
If they were closer friends I would have reservations, but in this case I see no problem.
Post # 15
I’m someone who doesn’t even think it’s weird to pick the same venue as an actual friend (like… how would that take away from their wedding?), so I say go for it!