(Closed) Would you give your BF/FI a little extra money to get the diamond you love?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Should I chip in or not?
    Chip in for the diamond you absolutely love : (85 votes)
    73 %
    Paying for part of your own ring would be weird : (26 votes)
    22 %
    Other : (5 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy Beekeeper

    i think if he is okay with it, then its ok.  i have a feeling some guys would want to be the one who pays and they might feel weird. 

     

    EDIT: i just asked my Fiance how he would feel if i had given him money towards my ring and he said “weird”.  then i asked if he would have accepted it and he said “probably not”.  

    Post # 5
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    5657 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Sure why not? If he’s okay with it I say go for it.

    Post # 6
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    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    As long as he is cool with it i say go for it 🙂

    Post # 7
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    433 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I wouldn’t mind it but my Fiance,would never let me do that. he would probably pick up extra shifts at work or find some way to get the money himself.

    Post # 8
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    2116 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    You’re going to wear this ring FOREVER, if you want to chip in then do it.

    Post # 9
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    7296 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    seems like the consensus is that WE (girls) are okay with it, but not our men! lol. typical male way of thinking i guess….

    Post # 10
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    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I like the idea (and did so) of contributing for my own ring.

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    You’re getting married.  As in doing everything together for the most part financially.  I don’t know why this would be an exception.

    Post # 12
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    5118 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @dynamic_duo:

    I’d bring it up and ask him if he’d be comfortable with it. Like PPs said, it seems that the ladies may be more ok with it than the guys. I think it also depends on how or if you’ll be combining finances…then it really is like you’re both purchasing the ring anyway (since x amount will be going towards the ring and not into your combined accounts). I think that is important to consider, too.

    Post # 13
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    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I inherited two engagement rings, one from my grandmother and the other from a great aunt.  I gave him my grandmothers engagement ring… so he took it and got the band!  I think it enabled the engagement to happen sooner.

    Post # 14
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Fiance and I both paid for my ring. We’ve had joint finances for years so regardless of where the money came from, it was still our money.

    To be honest, I don’t really think its fair that all of the responsibility falls on the guy yet the girl gets to reap all the benefits. 

    Post # 15
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    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    After marriage it is all one pot of money, so why would it matter who spends it now?

    Post # 16
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    609 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think if he’s okay with it go for it. I offered to help pay for my ring, which Fiance was okay with but then when it came time to pay for it he said no anyways. I didn’t get my “dream” ring but financially we got what was right for us for right now & I still love it.

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