(Closed) Would you give your BF/FI a little extra money to get the diamond you love?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Should I chip in or not?
    Chip in for the diamond you absolutely love : (85 votes)
    73 %
    Paying for part of your own ring would be weird : (26 votes)
    22 %
    Other : (5 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    7296 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    i think if he is okay with it, then its ok.  i have a feeling some guys would want to be the one who pays and they might feel weird. 


    EDIT: i just asked my Fiance how he would feel if i had given him money towards my ring and he said “weird”.  then i asked if he would have accepted it and he said “probably not”.  

    Post # 5
    5657 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Sure why not? If he’s okay with it I say go for it.

    Post # 6
    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    As long as he is cool with it i say go for it 🙂

    Post # 7
    433 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I wouldn’t mind it but my Fiance,would never let me do that. he would probably pick up extra shifts at work or find some way to get the money himself.

    Post # 8
    2116 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    You’re going to wear this ring FOREVER, if you want to chip in then do it.

    Post # 9
    7296 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    seems like the consensus is that WE (girls) are okay with it, but not our men! lol. typical male way of thinking i guess….

    Post # 10
    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I like the idea (and did so) of contributing for my own ring.

    Post # 11
    4313 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    You’re getting married.  As in doing everything together for the most part financially.  I don’t know why this would be an exception.

    Post # 12
    5118 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999


    I’d bring it up and ask him if he’d be comfortable with it. Like PPs said, it seems that the ladies may be more ok with it than the guys. I think it also depends on how or if you’ll be combining finances…then it really is like you’re both purchasing the ring anyway (since x amount will be going towards the ring and not into your combined accounts). I think that is important to consider, too.

    Post # 13
    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I inherited two engagement rings, one from my grandmother and the other from a great aunt.  I gave him my grandmothers engagement ring… so he took it and got the band!  I think it enabled the engagement to happen sooner.

    Post # 14
    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Fiance and I both paid for my ring. We’ve had joint finances for years so regardless of where the money came from, it was still our money.

    To be honest, I don’t really think its fair that all of the responsibility falls on the guy yet the girl gets to reap all the benefits. 

    Post # 15
    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    After marriage it is all one pot of money, so why would it matter who spends it now?

    Post # 16
    609 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think if he’s okay with it go for it. I offered to help pay for my ring, which Fiance was okay with but then when it came time to pay for it he said no anyways. I didn’t get my “dream” ring but financially we got what was right for us for right now & I still love it.

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