- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
There is a guy who my Fiance has known for years— he was a roommate to my fiancés little brother like 6ish years ago, so they all did the weekend drunk thing often. (I think they may have gone to high school together as well) We only see him a few times a year now at random events, but are friendly, and always have a good time when we do see him and his fiancé.
Well they’re getting married this weekend. FI’s brother (obviously) got invited, as did my Future In-Laws. We did not. Wasn’t a big deal at all to us. (We kinda giggled that now we don’t have to awkwardly invite them to ours)
Well, we saw them this past weekend when we were picking up food, and we said hello. I even threw a “Congratulations soon!” out there and got a “oh, uh, thanks!” out of them. Last night Fiance gets a call from his brother saying that the couple felt like assholes and now want us to come to their wedding and we can come after 8:00pm.
1.) I didn’t at ALL mean to make them feel like asses.. I genuinely am happy for any couple a week away from their wedding, invited or not! Haha.
2.) They requested that we come after the meal, and I wouldn’t have had a problem with that, had they sent a “reception only” invite before hand.
3.) Now I feel like we’d go we’d have to invite them to ours..
4.) I would feel so weird walking in as the only “non dinner” guests
5.) Aaaaaand I don’t want to scramble to find a gift (we’re talking TOMORROW)
(do you even give a gift when you’re only invited to the reception?)
I do understand how some people and details get forgotten about, and I pray that I don’t have that happen—so being a bride myself, I get it. But I find it this situation awkward!! (Like did we get forgotten about, or now do they just feel bad that they didn’t include us? No reason to though!)
Fiance says he’ll go, especially if they have open bar. (total man!) Am I being goofy by not wanting to go? Would YOU go?