- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2015
Ok so my sister and I are best friends and have been so since we were children. She got engaged this past summer and I was/am really excited for her. I asked her about a month after her engagement if they had set a date yet since I told her I wanted to come to her wedding, even if it was just going to be a small courthouse wedding. She said she was excited and they had a tentative date. I was cool with that and told her to let me know when it was set in stone. So about a month later, she said not to make plans for that date because they weren’t 100% sure on it yet. So I didn’t. Fast forward to last October, my boyfriend and I went down to visit her and my parents. She still didn’t have a date set in stone and was starting to act a big iffy on if they were going to be getting married at all around the timeline she’d given me. No pressure from me though being the good sister I am. I told her to not rush it if she wasn’t ready yet and to just let me know. Of course I also told her that I needed some advance notice since airline tickets are expensive to fly from Alberta, Canada to NC.
So today she texts me to tell me they have a set date. It’s about two weeks later than the date she’d originally given me and of course ticket prices are going up. Normally it’s about $800 for me to fly back home. I checked for the date she’d given me and the cheapest flight I found was around $1300. To make matters worse, she hasn’t actually asked me to come there for her big day. I didn’t expect an invitation, but I would at least like her to ask me to come down there. My boyfriend is asking if I’m going down there and as much as I’d love to, at this point I don’t even know if it’s worth it. 1) It’ll cost me almost double what it normally would cost me to fly down there. There was only one $1300 ticket left and the rest were $1500 or higher. 2) She hasn’t actually asked me to be there, so I feel like obviously she doesn’t care. I know about a week before she does get married she’ll be complaining to my mom that I didn’t care enough to be there for her, but she hasn’t even asked me to come and stand up for her at her wedding. I don’t know, bees what would you do in this situation?
ETA: Also, I’m not working right now, so money isn’t exactly floating around on trees for my boyfriend and I. I mean he makes good money, but if I went it would make things very tight for us and my sister seems to not care about that.