Post # 1
I am just looking more for a would you come to this reception if you were this person. A friend of mine lives about 2 hours away and she will be just under 8 months pregnant by the time of my wedding. She currently has a young child that will be about 21 months at the time. The reception is adults-only and at a very expensive hotel. If you were in this situation would you come to the wedding? I am more just curious as to what people think.
Post # 3
I think it depends how good a friend. If it was a really close friend? Yes. More of an acquaintance? No.
Post # 4
Sure. Why not? I have never been pregnant, but I’m assuming you can still live.
Post # 5
@LondonLover: Is she invited alone or with her husband/partner? I personally would go with my husband and enjoy the alone time (get mom or babysitter to watch the kid overnight) as long as I wasn’t physically uncomfortable about being pregnant (which some people can be at 8 months). I know that my boss has 3 young children (7, 5, and 1) and she has gone to at least 3 weddings this year (including my own) and leaves the children with family or friends overnight to go party with her husband and stay in a nice hotel and have a good time 🙂 At the same time, I wouldn’t blame somebody who is very pregnant and with small children if they said they couldn’t come…but I would be slightly disappointed, hehe
Edit: And at 2 hours away, you don’t even have to stay overnight, if that makes you uncomfortable!
Post # 6
@BookishBelle her husband is invited to the wedding.
As far as how close we are, I guess I am maybe trying to determine that by what most people would do. I realize all situations and people are different. I honetly don’t know what I would do in the situation since I don’t have kids and have never been pregnant. We are part of a group of friends that gets together at least once a month so we hang out fairly often.
She did RSVP no, while I am not surprised I am a little disapointed (we do need some no thank yous, so I am happy we did get some however)
Post # 7
I probably would try…but I guess being 8 mo. pregnant with a 2 year old things might come up. But if she can meet up with you once a month I’m not sure why she couldn’t come to the wedding. Maybe she has a valid reason though…hard to say without asking her.
Post # 8
It depends. How good of a friend is she? Does she have disposable income for the trip? Will someone be able to watch her child?
Post # 9
If you were a good friend, yes.
Post # 10
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
I haven’t been pregnant yet, so if this is my first child and I’m almost 8 months pregnant, no way in Hell I’m leaving to go to a loud party! LOL! But I’m weird. She already has another kid, so she’d probably be fine. It’s probably going to depend more on if she can get the time off work, get a babysitter, afford the expense, etc.
Post # 11
Thanks all, I appreciate the insight. I don’t want to ask, just wondered what people thought.
Post # 12
Having been pregnant, I probably would say no I wouldn’t come.
Honestly, I was such a fat cow by 8 months pregnant.. I would have been so uncomfortable all evening, and I wouldn’t have wanted to spend the money on a new dress when I was that size since I would never wear it again, you know?
On the other hand, if she isn’t unfpcomfortable in her pregnancy like I was, maybe it would be a fun night out for her and her hubby before the new baby came.
I wouldn’t give it a second thought if she can’t come tho, at 8 months pregnant sometimes you just aren’t up for a night out.