Post # 1
doing so enabled you to go to a place you otherwise (after the wedding) could not afford?
Here’s my story bees, I need some input/advice.
I was recently approached regarding taking a business trip to London next summer. That trip specifically lasts for about three weeks. My boss, who is paying for my plane ticket, offered to let me “extend” my trip and return to the US on a later date.
So, I approached my Fiance about the possibility of flying him out to London and we could explore around the UK/Europe for ten days after my first trip finishes, and then fly home together. This would be about a month before our wedding.
Of course, if we do this, then it doesn’t make sense to go on another big trip right after the wedding (plus we can’t afford to do so) – so could this trip be our honeymoon?
Keep in mind that essentially, we are being given the opportunity to do this trip MINUS the entire cost of MY plane ticket (saves a bunch of $$) and we would not otherwise be able to afford going to Europe.
So I’m feeling conflicted bees… there’s no REAL reason to not do this (especially since we live together, so it’s not like we’re “saving alone time for after the wedding” or anything), it’s just that *technically* we won’t actually be married until a couple weeks after we get back. We even considered doing a short (2 night-ish) trip in our area AFTER the wedding in addition to London… just to “get away.”
Anyways, I’d love to hear some thoughts! Thanks! 🙂
Post # 3
I’m not sure what to tell you… I think of a honeymoon as a time to relax and celebrate after all the craziness of the wedding. Kind of a continuation of happiness before having to go back to real world stuff (work, etc). However, this is a great opportunity for the two of you. I’m just wondering if it won’t feel like a honeymoon to you if you do it before the wedding… then it’s just a vacation.
Post # 4
I would do it, its not ideal, but many people don’t even get a honeymoon, and thats less ideal. I would just consider it a prewedding de-stress honeymoon. If this is a dream trip that would otherwise be unattainable, I really think I couldn’t say no. I think there is a bee who had a honeymoon before her wedding, but I have no idea who it is so hopefully she will chime in!
Post # 5
Do it- better than nothing and it sounds like you won’t be able to do much more than a weekend thing after your wedding- so why not?
Post # 6
I went on a really big exotic trip with my Fiance about 4 months before my wedding. We aren’t having a honeymoon though. Your trip would be closer to your wedding date than mine was so I’d say to go for it! We had a small “minimoon” right after the wedding to soak in being newlyweds.
Post # 7
It really wouldnt be a honeymoon, but it sure would be fun!
Since honeymoons are for newlyweds and you wouldnt be wed, it would just be a pre-wedding vacation.
And in reality it wouldnt even feel the same. You arent celebrating your marriage, you still have planning and details to work out when you return… so I dont see how it would feel as special as a vacation after your wedding. I say go, but still do something (even if its a weekend B&B) after your wedding because it really will feel different.
Post # 8
Go for it!! You can always take a weekend at a local hotel when you get back and just call that your “honeymoon”. Or, since no one will remember years later that you went a couple weeks before, you can just refer to your UK trip as your Honeymoon and that’s that!
Post # 9
Definitely go just to go, but still take maybe a staycation or a small weekend away after your wedding to have a true honeymoon to relax and enjoy!
Post # 9
I would do it. Personally for me a honeymoon and a vacation are not different except the name and the amount we’re willing to spend. If you can go on the same trip for less, why not? We went to Europe when we were engaged and for honeymoon, there wasn’t much differences except we spent more money using the excuse “honeymoon”.
Post # 10
- Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France
I would go, But I am not sure you could call it a honeymoon.. I mean, you aren’t married. I would go for the trip and the fact that I just totally love london! But in all actuality.. if you will be there then getting married in 2 weeks.. I would be worried about all the loose ends that need to be taken care of at home. I can’t imagine that EVERYTHING will be done.. especially since you will be there for quite some time…so I don’t know how relaxed you would be.
Post # 11
You should go! And then do a quiet weekend thing after your wedding =)
Post # 12
It sounds like an amazing opportunity but I don’t think it counts as a honeymoon. I agree with PP that a honeymoon is for newlyweds and you won’t be wed.
Post # 13
Do it, the honeymoon’s purpose is to be with your husband, as long as you’re with him doesn’t matter when is it. And how amazing to spend that time with your FI!.
We can’t afford a Honeymoon not now, not after the wedding so we’re planning on taking one a year after (hopefully) so we’ll just rent an hotel room after the wedding and enjoy some newlywed time.
Post # 14
I dont think it would really be a honeymoon, but I’d still do the trip. We had the same thing come up about our 4 week vacation to new zealand and austrailia about 6 months before the wedding. We debated calling that our ‘honeymoon’ and then not doing one after the wedding. But to us, the honeymoon was something to escape to AFTER the wedding, and your first get away as a married couple. So calling a trip before the wedding a honeymoon just wasnt for us. Many people are doing a delayed honeymoon even months after the wedding. Maybe you can do this trip and then do a delayed honeymoon?
Post # 15
Just want to warn you that you may be too stressed to enjoy it one month before the wedding. We had a weekend trip planned for one month out and were going crazy and kicking ourselves for taking the time. It sounds like a great opportunity but just keep in mind that you will have a lot going on one month out.