Post # 16
I think you should definitely go, but I agree with some of the others that it wouldn’t really be a honeymoon. Do you already know the dates of the trip? You can start looking out for deals on airfare (for your FI) and hotels for the dates you will be there. Since your wedding is still pretty far out, hopefully you can save some money so that you can have a honeymoon after the wedding as well, even if it’s only a few nights and close to where you live. I definitely needed something to look forward to after the wedding was over, and it was so nice to go away!
Post # 17
I would do it! Just take a few days off of work after the wedding so you’ll be able to unwind from that, too.
Post # 19
Go on the trip with your Fiance. Call it a honeymoon or just a trip. It is a great opportunity no matter what you call it. After your wedding you don’t have to take a honeymoon. You and your new husband can relax at home. You and your new husband can take another trip at a later date if you want to. And if you don’t that is fine too. There is no law that says you have to take a honeymoon.
Post # 20
I think that is a great opportunity! Definitely go for it! Plane tickets to Europe are crazy expensive and only having to pay for 1 is awesome! =]
Post # 21
I would go on the trip but I still wouldn’t call that the “honeymoon” and I’d still want a post wedding trip even if you can’t afford something as lavish, at least you got to experience Europe, but it isn’t a “honeymoon” IMO.
Post # 22
I agree with the PP’s, take the trip, but don’t call it a honeymoon I like @PinkMagnolia:
Engagimoon. But just realize you are going to be super, super stressed only 1 month from your wedding. Especially if you are going to be gone for 3 weeks. Can your Fiance join you prior to your work trip that way you’ll have more time at home before the wedding.
Post # 23
Why not??!! Its not traditional but then who cares. Its an amazing opportunity and even if its not a ‘honeymoon’, its a fantastic vacation. I vote go for it!
Post # 24
Thank you everyone for all of your great input!!
You all are pretty much saying what Fiance and I are thinking… that we should definetly do the trip, but maybe not call it our “honeymoon” – technically. We will absolutely also do a “mini-moon” after the wedding (local trip, couple overnights – RELAXATION)…
Also thanks for the tips about being super stressed 1 month prior to the wedding… I hadn’t considered that too much but it makes sense. Fortunately my schedule permits me to do a lot of wedding stuff before the trip (for about a month), so I think that should help.
I like your thinking! 🙂 Call it whatever, just go and have a great time, lol.
Engagimoon!! Lol. I think we’ll do exactly what you guys did… 😀
I guess overall I’m going to not get too hung up on the terminology – honeymoon vs. vacation – who cares about the name??? The POINT is to have an awesome trip with my FI/DH! 🙂
Post # 25
i say do it! But i agree it would not constitute or feel like a honeymoon.
maybe for a honeymoon after the wedding, go somewhere for a local, inexpensive weekend getaway. my honeymoon was only 4 days, but it was sure was needed and just the best time ever because we were basking in post-wedding mushiness – that’s what made it feel like a honeymoon and was definitely worth it! A honeymoon doesn”t have to be a “big trip”, it just has to be somewhere you can enjoy having just got married and enjoy the time to yourselves without having to deal with ANYTHING else.
Post # 26
DO IT! And, maybe you can go somewhere not very expensive after the wedding? Maybe Vegas? That wouldn’t be very expensive. Plus, you’re bound to get some money gifts for the wedding. I say, go to London and take a small, inexpensive honeymoon after the wedding.
Oh, PS… I want your job!
Post # 27
Doesn’t matter how much planning you do before hand, the month before is super stressful–getting the RSVP’s, letting your venue know your numbers, doing your escort cards, programs, etc. I would really really recommend having the vaction prior to your work instead of after.
Def have a mini-moon after. It’s so nice to relax after all that stress and just enjoy being husband and wife.
Post # 28
Definetly agree with this – we are not even considering going straight back to real life, lol. We will for sure do something!
Haha I don’t think you do… I’m in medical school, ugh. 😛 We just finish classes early and I’m taking the summer off for the wedding 🙂
I don’t know if it’s an option to do it “before” the work… hmm…
Post # 29
Do it. We did a pre-weddingmoon two months before our wedding and it was awesome. We had planned on going to New Zealand for our honeymoon but then realised that with a bizarre confluence of holidays at the end of April/early May, we could actually go to NZ for two weeks with only having to take 3 days off work, so off we went. We loved every second of it.
After the wedding, we planned a mini-moon with our siblings and out of country friends to Yellowstone (it would be our last time seeing them for a while as we live in Australia) and that was a nice, sort of relaxing getaway.
We then got back home and decided that we did want to do a relaxing, beach honeymoon so we’ve now booked a Christmas holiday to Vanuatu that was meant to be a delayed honeymoon, but is actually going to turn out to be a babymoon instead.
Moral of the story – take advantage of the opportunities that present themselves, you will never regret it.
Post # 30
Oh, and I don’t agree that the month before your wedding has to be insanely stressful. Do as much as you can beforehand – you can print the programs before you go, arrange all the small details etc. The only thing you may have to worry about are the RSVPs and seating arrangements. Do you have people at home that can help you? I know my mom was a huge help and put together the seating arrangements for me and I just spent one afternoon printing out the place cards and one evening watching tv putting them all together.
Weddings are as stressful as you make them – I didn’t care too much about minute details that no one was going to notice and therefore experienced very little stress before my wedding.