Post # 1
So, I was just talking to my friend who is potentially taking a vacation to Egypt without her long-term Boyfriend or Best Friend. She asked me if I would go with a group of girls if my Fiance had 0 interest in going. I said I probably would not go on a vacation without him because we like to travel together and it would be such a huge expense for one of us that I would feel guilty. She asked a couple of her married friends and apparently we are split down the middle about who would go and who would not. So what about you? Would you take a long vacation without your FI/Husband? (Just for clarification we’re not talking about weekend/local trips).
Post # 3
I probably would 🙂 We’ve got our life together, we can miss a couple months here and there 🙂
Post # 4
I definitely would. And although we aren’t married yet we both have taken long trips without each other. I went to Italy/Greece for a month and a half and then a year later he went to Thailand for a month. Although we will take majority of vacations together I will definitely be open to us continuing separate vacations, its a totally different experience to go on a “girls” or”guys” vacation as we both did compared to a couples vacation. We both love to travel and won’t pass up an opportunity that comes along and never hold eachother back.
Post # 5
Hell yeah! I’d be game for a week away with my girlfriends somewhere. If he doesn’t want to go, he’s missing out =]
I wouldn’t feel a lick guilty, either!
(i could never do a month simply because i don’t get that kind of time at work!).
Also–we’ve spent up to 8 months apart….so uh, a week? not a biggie =]
Post # 6
No, I’d feel guilty. I’ll probably do it when we have a kid though. I can imagine taking the kid to stay with my family who live overseas for several weeks, while Darling Husband would probably prefer doing something else with his vacation time.
Post # 7
I would probably do a weekend trip, but any longer and I just wouldn’t enjoy it as much if he weren’t there.
PS – A poll would work really well here…
Post # 8
@meliss:You think your Darling Husband would be alright going a month without seeing his kid?
Post # 9
i’d go! as long as he didnt mind. i dont think i could stand to be away much longer than a week though.
Post # 10
I’d go in a heartbeat, lol!
Post # 11
As long as it’s okay with him I’d go. I think independence within a relationship is healthy.
Post # 12
I sure would! I would enjoy myself too…LOL. I think all girl, all guy trips have a different vibe to them than “couple” trips.
Post # 13
@Belle2Be: My mom used to take my little bro and I to my grandparents for a few weeks in the summer. My dad couldn’t take the time off. We all did a-ok being apart. 🙂
To answer the OP’s question… HECK YES! I have (and still do) go on vacations without him. Fiance doesn’t really like to travel and I LOOOVE it, so I will take trips with my girlfriends.
I stayed a month in Italy while he stayed home. I missed him terribly, but I had a blast and would do it again in a heartbeat!
Post # 14
I would say no. I would miss my Darling Husband too much, and I would prefer to do something like that with him. = )
Post # 15
@Belle2Be: I really don’t know. He’s not crazy about kids yet so I’m curious how things will be when he becomes a father. I would think he’d kind of enjoy the guy alone time one in a while though. When I was a kid I stayed for several weeks at my grandparents’ homes for summer vacations and I don’t think either of my parents had a problem with that.
Post # 16
Definitely! I took a couple of long trips w/o Darling Husband before we were married, and I’d do it again now. If taking the trip meant that Darling Husband and I couldn’t later go on a trip together, then I’d probably wait and travel with him. Otherwise, however, I’d go and he’d want me to.