(Closed) Would you go to a Dec 22 wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Busy bee

I guess for me it would depend. Funds are tight for me at that time of year. But if it was right here in town I would, I’m not much of a fan of Christmas so it might be nice to have a distraction. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

That’s when I got married.  Just about everyone we invited came.  The church was packed.  The year we got married, it was on a Friday, which might have helped.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2007

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favflamingo :  I wouldn’t, there’s always something going on in the days before Christmas and usually a lot to do! 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

It depends of mainly three things: (1) who is getting married? (close friend, distant relative, etc.); (2) where is the wedding? (local, destiny, etc.); and (3) do I have any other plans by then? (traveling, spending holidays elsewhere, etc.).

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I personally think it is too close to Christmas. Some people have very limited vacation time around the holidays so any time off is usually spent with family. Travel is also much more expensive that close to Christmas, accommodations book up way in advance, and inclement weather sucks to travel in. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

My dad’s side of the family have always celebrated on the Saturday prior to Christmas instead of Christmas day itself, so this would clash for me. If it was a close family member or friend’s wedding, I’d probably forego my usual holiday plans. If it was for a distant relative or less close friend, I’d probably decline – particularly if I had to travel to attend. My dad’s side of the family don’t get together very often (we live all over the place), so we all make the effort for Christmas and I’d prefer not to miss that if possible.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

I would go.. I even went to a Christmas wedding before.. doesn’t mean that a wedding which coincides with another event is any less important to go to. If I had a wedding close to these holidays, I would also hope for my guests to come 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I would definitely go to a local wedding on 22 Dec.  If I had to travel then possibly not, just because of how expensive accommodation and flights are at that time of year.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper

Of course, so  long as it was not destination. If it was close family and they’d   all be there then I’d be happy to go even to a destination one 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I would be annoyed. While I might want to attend your wedding I would dislike someone essentially planning my holiday for me and cutting into my precious family time. Sometimes families only get to come together once or twice a year for Christmas and thanksgiving.  You’ll be basically forcing people to choose to go to your wedding or traveling to see their families, unless everyone invited is all from your town. 

I had a relative do this. She scheduled her wedding on Thanksgiving and it meant my whole family had to skip our holiday dinner and other festivities to attend. Instead of relaxing with family, eating turkey and watching football, I spent an exorbitant time fighting holiday traffic to and from another state, attending rehearsals and doing last minute stuff for her and paying high holiday prices for hotels. 

I wanted to be there for her but I thought it was inconsiderate of her to make 120 people choose between going to her wedding or having a thanksgiving.

While your date isn’t exactly on Christmas Day, i say it’s too close, pick another date.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

If it is local maybe. FIs birthday is on the 23rd and trying to organise even a handful of people to celebrate is tough. Travelling is the worst.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Personally, no. Christmas is a big deal in my family with lots of birthdays either side of the 25th as well and we normally have dinners/lunches with different sides from the 22nd to the 26th . Even without this though I think it’s too much of a stressful/busy time of year for most people and would impact holiday plans etc.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

No.  It’s so close to Christmas that I would likely have other festive plans that I look forward to all year.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

If it’s local, sure. Weddings come with plenty of advanced warning so I can arrange my shopping/wrapping around it easily enough. I wouldn’t travel that close to Christmas though, the time of year is already stressful enough and money even tighter than normal. 

I see my family fairly often and don’t generally have specific plans until Christmas Eve so it wouldn’t be taking away from my usual holiday plans like it probably does for other people though.

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