(Closed) Would you go to a Dec 22 wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

It would depend where it was. Local yes, have to travel / stay in a hotel maybe not. It is quite a quiet time for me work wise near Christmas. In fact I’d prob already be on annual leave for christmas so work wouldn’t be an issue. It would more likely be cost of a hotel.

Though saying that – not sure even that would put me off…. But then I love weddings and will pretty much go to everyone I am invited to.

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

As long as it’s local, absolutely!! I don’t know how many people would be able or willing to travel for a Christmas wedding if it’s not local, though. 

Post # 18
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

For me, it’s a flat no.  Sorry, things are too hectic around that time of the year and DH and I have annual travel plans for the holiday.  Seeing my entire family trumps most weddings.  Unless you were my sibling, I’d decline the invitation without hesitation.

Post # 19
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Honey bee

Nope.  Only if you were very close immediate family I would have been getting together with anyway.

Between multiple sides to each family with married couples plus divorces and step-families and extended families, it is hard enough getting together with everyone as it is.  Christmas is no longer just the 25th.  Usually there are multiple get-togethers spanning the course of several weeks, plus additional expenses, preparing for the holidays (shopping, baking, cleaning, etc.).  In fact, most of the family celebrations usually take place the two weekends before and the weekend after and I spend Christmas at home with only very immediate these days recovering from all the other get-togethers.

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Farm

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favflamingo :  I would attend if it was local or less than 2 hours away.

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I personally would it was family or a close friend and close by or affordable to get to. Not for a destination wedding. 

Post # 22
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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favflamingo :  Absolutely. Done with work by then normally and never have anything speical planned until Christmas day itself. Perfect 🙂

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Not if it involves travel or a hotel stay, unless it is a nuclear family member. I’d also be more likely to cancel closer to the date.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

For a local wedding and for a loved one, yes!

Only the 24th and 25th are booked for me. I know it’s busy in the days leading up to Christmas, but I’d plan ahead so I’d be free that day.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee

If it was local yes. I can get the 22/23 off work easier than the 24/25. 

Post # 26
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

if i would attend your wedding on anyother day, i’d attend it on dec 22 as well.

unless it was destination and just too expensive to travel to.

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

I would go if the wedding was local and if I didn’t have other things planned already.

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

For me it depends where it is. I wouldn’t travel 2,000 miles to go to one, but if it was my family, who are all a four-hour drive away? Sure I would 🙂

Post # 29
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

It would really depend on how close to the person I was and where it was.  I travel back to my home country for Christmas so if it was a close school friend getting married in that country then absolutely.  If it was someone I was less close to where I currently live then I might reconsider, as it would limit my time with family over Christmas and also probably push the flights up in price significantly. 

Post # 30
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Bumble bee

Most likely not.  As pp stated above, Christmas is no longer on the 25th.  Because of my daughters custody agreements with their exes this is usually when we celebrate Christmas as a family.  Sometimes we have to have 2 Christmases because all 4 daughters live quite a ways from us and can’t necessarily be there for the first one.  Quite often we have to celebrate on the weekend before and the weekend after.

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