Would you go to a Dec 22 wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 61
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

You’ve got to remember people travel lots at this time, so chances are lots of friends will be out of town

Post # 62
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Bumble bee

I’ve been to weddings that were very close to Christmas – if I can make it, I will.  But I personally would never set a date for my wedding so close to Christmas knowing what a busy time of year this is for people.  You have to be prepared for people not being able to attend due to other obligations or being away.

Post # 63
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Sugar bee

Probably only if it was one of my siblings/husband’s siblings. 

I usually have family Christmas parties in the couple of weekends before Christmas and I’m usually pretty stressed about time and money. Also in my city the driving and traffic is awful at that time of year and you can’t get a cab to save your life. 

Post # 64
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Depends if it most of my guest had to travel.. if they did then no.. i would not do a Dec 22. 

Post # 65
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2023

No, it’s my daughters birthday and we are so busy that close to Christmas anyway. 

Post # 66
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Newbee

While I understand peoples’ reservations, my situation is unique. I’m originally from Florida and most of my close friends from childhood and college still live there. My fiance’s family all lives in Texas, and my immediate family lives in Louisiana and Texas. 

I don’t think it’s such a sacrifice to give up one Thanksgiving to see a dear friend or family member get married. We purposely chose a time where we thought most of our out-of-town guests could be off work and able to travel. We understand many still won’t be able to come, but that was a major consideration for us.

While I understand family time is important, it’s a one-time thing. I did the same thing for one of my dear friend’s weddings last year, and I didn’t regret it at all. It was whirlwind–celebrating both of our birthdays, then Thanksgiving, then rehearsal, then wedding—but it was beautiful and I was so glad I had time off work to fly from Texas to Florida to share it all with her. 

Post # 67
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Helper bee

Yes I would. Even if it meant traveling. Assuming of course the travel expenses to the wedding destination were not astronomical just because of the date.

Post # 68
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Bumble bee

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favflamingo :  Absolutely not. I wouldn’t go to a wedding in the week of Christmas even if I was paid to go.

Post # 69
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Bumble Beekeeper

Local? Maybe. Out of town? Not unless you were my closet friend or my child. 

Post # 70
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Bumble Beekeeper

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notchanginginitials :  Christmas, not Thanksgiving. I don’t care as much about Thanksgiving either. but Christmas…is Christmas. 

Post # 71
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Holly Hedge Estate

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favflamingo :  The days leading up to christmas are so insane for me and my family. It’s when my brother who lives in Colorado come back to NJ, it’s when we see my biological mother’s sister and her family and etc etc. there is literally a family event every single night from December 20th onward. So I probably wouldn’t be able to make it, and with that being said, I would be so sad to not make it to the wedding. That is just a difficult time of year/time of that month.

Post # 72
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Probably if it was local. Not if I had to travel.

Post # 73
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Helper bee

It depends who was getting married. I’m close with my cousins and siblings, so I would go if it were them. I have 3 friends for whom I would also 100% go, and a handful of friends for whom I would try my best to go. For anyone else, I likely would not go unless it was in my town and convenient with my holiday plans. 

Post # 74
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Busy bee

I’d go!

Post # 75
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

It depends on how close I am to the couple.  For a sibling,  sure,  for a really close friend, probably,  for a friend,  maybe,  aquantaintance,  no. 

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