Would you go to a Dec 22 wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 76
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I would go, particularly if it was someone I was close to, but wouldn’t be too happy about it as christmas is always crazy busy and have less cash to spend. 

Post # 77
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Yes I would go. I don’t do much at Christmas so would love to spend a day with friends!

Post # 78
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

If the wedding was local and there was no major impending snow storm, yes.

Post # 79
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m really surprised at how many negative responses are on here. The holidays are a time for joy, family and friends. I would definitely go to a December 22 wedding.

I take it back if it is a destination wedding of course 😉

Post # 80
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Buzzing bee

If it was a local event, I’d go! Any excuse to dress up around the holidays is fun for me

Post # 81
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

I would, as long as it was local.

Post # 82
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

We got married on Dec 21st, on a Wednesday. So…yeah. But our wedding was really small, just immediate family and a few close friends. 

Post # 83
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

It would depend. For a close friend/family member, I would certainly travel. I would probably attend a local wedding for others, but probably not travel too far.

I’ve actually attended a Christmas wedding before and it was wonderful. This sounds corny, but the atmostphere was so magical! I did miss an annual family function that year, but I was okay with it because it was just one year and these close friends will only get married once.

I think at the end of the day it’s up to you. Some people will be okay with it, some people won’t.

Post # 84
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Busy bee

I’m going to a Dec 22nd & Dec 29th wedding this year. Looking forward to both immensely! It’s Christmas an excellent time for a celebration & double whammy if it involves catching up with old friends!!

Post # 85
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Bumble bee

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favflamingo :  If it’s a local wedding for a close friend/family, I’d go.

Post # 86
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

That depends on a lot of things.  1) who is getting married: close friend or relative-sure.  Distant friend, coworker, or relative I’m not close to-depends on where.  2) location: local (as in I can drive home that day)-sure.  Need to stay overnight-no unless it was a sibling or my best friend

Post # 87
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Newbee

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beethree :  I get it. My mom’s birthday is Dec 2 and my sister’s in Dec. 20..but again, my family would understand. It’s one time. Even though I live away from all of them. I get that some families wouldn’t. But I moved states away from all my friends, so like I said, my situation may be unique. 

Post # 88
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Busy Beekeeper

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notchanginginitials :  1) I have children–Christmas is for them and it’s too close to Christmas. What if there was a storm and I couldn’t get home?  2) Every component of travel is more difficult to acquire and significantly more expensive at Christmas–airfare, hotels, rental cars–everything. Prioritizing a date over your guests’ limitations on any level generally results in fewer guests. 

Post # 89
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Bumble bee

If it’s local (drivable distance) and I don’t have travel plans, then yes. But seeing it is the weekend before Xmas, a lot of people may be taking advantage of it to take a day off on 24th and travel to see family early (ie on the 22nd weekend), so that’s something to consider. 

Post # 90
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Blushing bee

I would decline, most likely, unless we were super close family.

We have too many family events around that time of year and money is always tighter around the holidays. If you have guests that work in retail, service, etc. this is their busiest time of year and a lot of places don’t even allow requests for time off all December long.

Lots of people have blended, broken or an otherwise non-nuclear family and have a lot of people to see during the holidays. We try and spend one day at least with each ‘section’ of the family, and that will eat up the better part of a week for us, even with everyone being local. I don’t think I could shoehorn a wedding in there too.

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