Post # 1
We live in Maryland, and we’re considering a destination wedding in the Bahamas or somewhere in the Carribbean (Mexico is a no-go) next September.
We also considered like Miami Florida area (looking for palm trees and blue water), but reception dinners are like a fortune!! Like $150 minimum and you get nothing else. We’re looking at weekdays. It was kind of ridiculous.
Aruba was a nice option, but apparently you have to get married BEFORE you get married there -_- We didn’t like that.
We’re wondering how many people would really come to a destination wedding?
Pretend you’re at least a pretty good friend or family member (Aunts and Uncles, not really cousins or anyone like that)
If we stay in Maryland, we’d expect around 65 people. It’s pretty small. SOME are work-people though and we wouldn’t expect them to really bother (unless they’re my bridal party people). How many people do you think would come?
Post # 3
I would as long as I could afford it 🙂
ETA: And it would have to be a fairly close friend/family member as well
Post # 4
DH is originally from MD (we live overseas) and he’s been to the Bahamas several times….I’ve never been though. B/c of that, if we were there and assuming we were invited, we’d probably go. But we don’t kids ATM and we love to travel.
We had a Destination Wedding in Vegas and most everyone that had never been there came to our wedding. So I DO think that’s a big factor. Another factor for your guests would be how much time they could get off to go to the Destination Wedding….ours only took 2-3 days off and stayed the weekend.
Another big factor would money…most of his family there are having a hard time financially….for the first time in their lives so they were freaking out about going to our Destination Wedding when they couldn’t pay their bills. We paid for a couple of rooms, dinners, one flight, etc. just so they couldn’t use it as an excuse not to go. We invited 90 people (most in MD) and had 23 people attend (7 lived in Vegas.)
If you have your guest list, I’d seriously look at who would definitely go vs. who might not and then decide if you still want to go that route. DH was extremely disappointed that ALL of his childhood friends didn’t come….he attended all their weddings but then again, they were all local. And since none of his buddies are single they couldn’t justify a “trip” with their wives and kids b/c of finances. It’s caused DH to seriously re-evaluate his friendships with these people….and it sucks!
Post # 5
I think having a Destination Wedding means you really need to lower your expectations about people coming. For an immediate family member, I’d attend but other than that I almost certainly wouldn’t. I have limited money and vacation time, so it’s not really feasible to use it on someone else’s wedding. Attending a Destination Wedding is a lot to ask of anyone, so I think the couple needs to be aware of that.
Post # 6
@VAwife: Oh I know 65 people wouldn’t come. But I’m not sure if I should expect like 10 or 25 or like… what. We’re not even sure we’re doing it. Stuff around here is just not ideal looking for us, and we can’t get the day we wany anymore and it’s getting to be a problem trying to decide all this stuff. It’d be cheaper for us for a Destination Wedding also, so… that’s also another consideration.
Post # 7
My sister had a Destination Wedding in Hawaii. I don’t remember exactly how many people she invited, but I know it was somewhere around 100. A lot of her friends showed interest and initially said they wouldn’t miss it for anything, but in the end only about 20 people were there – mostly parents, siblings, and grandparents. No aunts/uncles made it to her wedding, and I think a total of 3 friends made it. I think for most people, they couldn’t justify the financial aspect as well as the time off from work.
Post # 8
If it was feasible I would go.
Post # 9
It wouldn’t have to be a super close friend or family member (so long as I actually like the person and they’re inviting me because they actually want me to come). If I’m available, interested and can afford it…yeah, I’d go.
Post # 10
I planned a destination wedding in the Mayan Riviera and I sent out something like 60 invites. I have a total of 29 adults coming and 4 little girls! That includes fiancé, daughter, and myself.
Post # 11
I’m curious as to why ruling out Mexico? If you want a Destination Wedding it is probably the cheapest option for your guests. It wasn’t our first choice either but we had to take the price for guests into consideration.
Post # 12
Hey hey, Spirit airlines has direct flights to many islands in the Caribbean from BWI- I’d look into that if I were you. They’re pretty cheap flights too (like $150).
I would only go to the Caribbean if it was a sibling or if I was in the wedding. I’m not a fan of island vacations and much prefer vacations to Europe or Asia instead, so it wouldn’t be my cup of tea.
Post # 13
I have no interest in visting the vacation spots you mention, so I wouldn’t come.
I don’t spend my own money and vacation days from work for someone else vacation (wedding.)
Post # 14
I would only go if it was an immediate family member or a really close friend. I think September is hurricane season so that would kind of make me nervous too lol.
Post # 15
@Utopia4us: It is, but fiance has stated many times he really doesn’t want to go to Mexico and he wouldn’t feel comfortable there. It’s become less and less safe, even in the touristy areas. My friend (Puerto Rican) was at an all inclusive down there and said she didn’t even feel the safest, and it wasn’t great anyway. She described it as kind of tired and worn down. Plus the whole, use-a-straw and water issue makes me super paranoid. Seems very strict and I would in NO WAY want to be paranoid or that worried about getting water in my mouth or bacteria from a glass or in the shower and getting sick. So… we ruled it out =/ lol
Post # 16
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
DH and I would be all over a caribbean Destination Wedding. Would depend on our realtionship with the couple, time of year, cost, etc. I’m guessing you might have 15-20. Have you thought about a cruise?
If you stay in MD- try looking at Fridays- a lot more opened up to us when we did.