Post # 32
It would have to be a really close friend (think best friends or friends I talk to often and hang out with a lot) or immediate family member (sibling).
If it were one of those people, I would definitely go (with advance notice)!
Otherwise, I think it would depend on if I could afford the $ and the time off of work and where it was. I would want to go somewhere I would also like to vacation at, because it is a vacation.
Post # 33
We went to one in Aruba a few years ago– my Fiance was in the wedding party. It was fun but a huge production– flights, hotel, meals, etc. REALLY EXPENSIVE for your guests. It was also a terrible time for traveling (busy at work for him, I was in grad school midterms). I’m not sure if we would have gone if he weren’t in the wedding.
I think you should do what you want to do, just expect that many people may not be able to make it.
Post # 34
If I could afford it I would love to go. Every wedding I get invited to is a destination wedding for me, because my family and friends are super spread out (MT, NYC, FL, CO) It is insane! I go if I can- but this year I can’t because I’ll be third trimester and last wedding I couldn’t because it was just not feasible financially.
Def. would go no matter what if it was a close family member or close friend or if I was in the wedding. Except if it was around my due date, can’t really help that!
Post # 35
I would only go for a very small handful of people. My vacations are my time to do what I want to do.
Post # 36
I would if it were close friends/family. Last year Fiance and I went to India to his good friend’s wedding, before we met he went to China to be his college roommate’s best man. Now that I think about it I also went to a wedding in Puerto Rico for my BFF (I was MOH), but that’s only 3 hr direct flight for me, no passport required, almost domestic:) I think it depends on your circle of friends and where they are in life (in school, with small babies, etc) and whether they like travel. My wedding is next summer in South America, I am hoping for a semi-decent turnout:)
Post # 37
I couldn’t really afford it no matter how much I loved a couple. It’s a bummer, but I had to miss a close cousin’s wedding because it was destination. It’s not a matter of wanting to be there, it’s a matter of wanting to be there badly enough to take out a loan (which I can’t ever concieve of doing, even for my own wedding!).
Post # 38
I would totally go if you were a good friend of mine or a family member! I can always justify a vacation! 🙂
Post # 39
If it was a friend and I could afford it/get the time off work, I’d be there in a heartbeat!
if it was for a family member, I’d make it happen. 🙂
Post # 40
If I was as close as you say, I definitely would.
Post # 41
@yanamari: We had a Destination Wedding in Destin, Florida(another place in Florida to consider btw…beautiful beaches and not as pricey as Miami). We chose Destin because it allowed us to have a beach wedding but made it easier for my family and friends to attend because most of them still live in Louisiana and it is like a 5 hour drive from there. We had less than 30 people total there(including us). We had a handful of people say they were going the entire time of wedding planning….and then cancel like 2 weeks before the wedding, one cancelled a lil over a week before. Luckily I didn’t have to give final numbers to my caterer until a week before the wedding. All the people that cancelled, would have had to fly and were facing financial troubles at the time. Which I totally understand, but just wished they would have been more honest with us and told us they couldn’t go sooner than 2 weeks out.
Most everyone that went made a vacation out of it and had a blast on the beach and kept saying how much they loved where our wedding was. Many travel every summer to Destin, but this was their first time going in October and they loved how it was the offseason but still nice weather and less crowded. Loved it so much I think many will from now on go there in the offseason instead of in the crowded summer months.
Post # 42
@Glasgowbound: IF ONLY someone in my family would get married in Scotland, I’d be there!
But the Carribbean and Florida and etc–nope, not interested.
I am very picky about wher eI go on vacation.
Post # 43
We went to HI for a Destination Wedding and it cost several thousand for both of us to go. That said, we stayed for the week and we really enjoyed ourselves. We were invited to another Destination Wedding (for us bc it was halfway across the country) and we had to decline since it would have been pricey and TBH, it wasn’t really anywhere we were dying to visit.
So my point is that if we could afford it, we would likely go, although it is better when it’s a nice destination versus out of town for the sake of being budget-friendly and out of town.