Post # 1
Well my fiance and I are paying for the wedding completely, and we have a small budget, about $3500 (maybe a little more) including wedding and honeymoon. I found a great venue I loved and planned on having the wedding on a Monday because the price drops from $1000 to $500 to rent for the day. However, my boss is making me doubt whether or not this is a good decision. She’s saying no one will come and out of town guests won’t take the time off and has said that everyone at our company (including two girls who are my BMs) will have to take a day of vacation if they want to go.
Would you go to a Monday wedding? Or should we spend the extra $500 to get a Saturday or Sunday and make sure more people can come?
There will not be any alcohol since neither of my families drink so we don’t have to worry about hungover guests but the majority of them will be coming from out of state so now I’m worried.
Post # 3
To be honest, I’d probably go to the ceremony and not the reception, or leave the reception very year. I would pay the extra $500 for the Saturday, personally.
Post # 4
Only if I was very very very close to the person, like immediate family close.
I don’t think $500 is enough of a difference (even on your small budget) to make it worth it. Now, if they’re going to give you better menu pricing, all your other vendors (florist etc) would be cheaper, etc – it might be worth it. Or if you are trying to keep the guest list down by doing it on an odd day. But $500 alone – if that’s the only savings – I’d pay it to do it on Saturday.
Post # 5
@Equine_Breeder: I voted Yes, if I was out of state, but I’d go either way. I’d go to a wedding on ANY day of the week to ANY part of the world. The day of the week shouldn’t have any bearing on the celebration. The people that love you will be there, even if they have to rent space suits and fly to the moon.
Post # 6
I’d go if it were immediate family. Anyone else would be out of luck.
Post # 7
If I was an out of state guest, I would probably not go to the wedding on a Monday unless it was an immediate family member or very close friend. I would however go if it were on a Saturday or Sunday.
Post # 8
I voted yes if I was in state, but honestly I’d only go if it was in the city I lived in. I wouldn’t travel out of town for a Monday wedding, let alone the state. Unless if course it was like, my brother or sister or something.
Having it on a Monday means out of town guests would have to take TWO days off for work. If you have to have it on a weekday, have it on a Friday night. Then at least that’s only 1 day they would have to take off work.
Post # 9
Does the venue offer a discount for lunch times on the weekend. Unless its a holiday that Monday people would probably attend the ceremony but not stay long for the reception since its a work day the next day.
Post # 10
If I were an out of state guest I would likely not attend unless you were a really really close friend or family member. A Monday wedding would mean taking at least 2 vacation days for out of state or out of town guests. Since you say the majority of guests would be coming from out of state, I would encourage moving the wedding to the weekend (or at least to Friday night if that’s cheaper as well) because it’s only a $500 difference (though I fully acknowledge that $500 is not insignificant when the your budget is $3500).
Post # 11
I can’t choose any of your options. It would honestly depend on my relationship with the couple.
Another thought is if they are coming out of state they would need to take off Tuesday too most likely (if it is a night time wedding or if they need to fly) that could really sway people to not come if they are short on vacation time (or money) to begin with.
$500 is a ton of money and not a lot all at once. Only you can decide if you can really afford it.
Post # 12
I’d spend the extra $500, it would be well worth it.
I would still try to attend but wouldn’t be able to stay very late. If it was a close friend or family member I would try even harder to make it work.
Post # 13
At this point in my life, sure. I don’t have class on Mondays.
A year from now, not unless you’re immediate family or a super close friend. I have too much other stuff that I have to get done to take off a weekday to go to a wedding. It just wouldn’t be realistic.
Post # 14
@Equine_Breeder: I’m doing a Sunday wedding becasue of the savings! I say go for it. You’ll save on photographers, catering…everything. EVERYTHING is cheaper on off days. We thought no one would want to travel to our sunday wedding.
Well we only have 3 “no”‘s That’s 80 people that said yes.
if you’re really worried about it- see if you still get the discount if the wedding is on a Friday or Monday.
Post # 15
I’m going to a Monday wedding in June…my own! Haha…If the price difference is only 500 for a weekend day, I would opt for that. This way more people could attend etc. Will you be saving money with other vendors?
Post # 16
I am totally open to weekday weddings (our wedding was on a Friday) but Monday is an exception. Mondays are brutal for me work wise and I have loads of things to do so trying to make it on a Monday would be rough (if it wasn’t a holiday). I might go depending on the location, time and relationship with the bride and groom. If it was out of state or far probably not.
For a small fee of $500 I would pay for the weekend if it is a concern. That is a small amount to relieve the concerns and headache that you might have coming if you do decide with Monday.