Post # 1
So, here’s my dilemma! (There are a lot of dilemmas early on in the wedding planning process, I’m finding!)
We LOVE. I mean LOVE. A venue we found in downtown Atlanta called the Trolley Barn. It’s beautiful, convenient (20 minutes) to the church, there are things to do around it, they allow you to bring in your own alcohol and caterers (a must for our budget), and it would be such a short awesome trip to our hotel (and convenient hotels for guests) afterwards.
Here’s the thing. It’s ONE THOUSAND dollars less on Thursday than on Friday, and almost 2000 less than a Saturday. We are paying for almost all of this wedding ourselves, and we are students (I graduate in May whoohoo!)
All that is to say that it would be really important for us to save that money.
If we sent the invitations out 4 months in advance (most of our guests are in town), how do you feel about Thursday weddings? Are they terrible? Tacky? Or would you be just as happy as on any other day to celebrate, eat good food and enjoy dancing and an open bar? 🙂
P.S. The ceremony at the church would probably start around 4:30 (as late as possible to accomodate work schedules and such).
ETA: Thursday traffic would be much better than Friday traffic in Atlanta.
Post # 3
I would absolutely go to a Thursday wedding if the wedding takes place close to my town. If I have to drive for 2 hours and have work on Friday, I would think about it.
Post # 4
@FutureMrsT1221: My fiance and I went to one last summer. I’m a teacher so I had off, but he ended up taking off that Thursday and Friday to go. The ceremony was at the venue though, so it started at 6 pm. Most people took a half day that day. You might have some people skip the church and attend the reception instead. Also, I noticed that a lot of people left early, especially if they didn’t take off that Friday.
I think for (only) $1000 less, I would do the Friday wedding. It’s a lot easier for people to attend that being that they have off on Saturday. In the grand scheme of things, 1k isn’t that much. But that’s just me.
ETA: If your guests are staying at the hotel afterwards, then they will probably have to take off Friday from work. So you might not have a lot of guests stay at the hotel afterwards. I know that I probably wouldn’t if it was a Thursday wedding and I had to work on Friday.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Honestly, only if you were a close friend or family and I lived nearby. Even then I might find an excuse not to go. But I don’t even like Friday weddings.
Post # 6
If it’s close enough, I’d certainly try. It’d come down to a lot of factors.
Post # 7
@FutureMrsT1221: I think you need to decide what is most important to you: saving the extra money for a Thursday wedding, or having a high guest attendance rate. If a wedding isn’t conveninet, causes someone to miss work/lose money/take a vacation day, or provides challenges with work, child care, etc. then chances are they won’t come.
I’m sure that those most important to you will find a way, but you will absolutely have fewer people attend on a Thursday than a Saturday (or even a Friday). People work the next day and it would not be enjoyable. I understand the need to save money, but you chose to have a wedding rather than elope. That means that the day is equally about your guests and their comfort.
I would not advocate having a wedding you can’t afford. It is your choice and you need to consider what is important to you overall – saving the extra money or having everyone you love and respect there to share in the day with you. I would not have the energy or time for a Thursday wedding but that’s just me. Neither choice is wrong, you do what’s best for you.
Post # 8
@FutureMrsT1221: If it was a family member we would absolutely go. If it wasnt, we probably wouldnt. We would have to take a half day at work on Thurs and work off on Friday if we were local…its not worth it to us if its not family.
I would go for Friday, and cut costs somewhere else.
Post # 9
Depends – what time would the ceremony be at? And the reception? If you were really close to me (close long time friend or family) – if it was required I had to take the day off to attend – I would. Otherwise I wouldnt.
I may just come for the ceremony but not the reception if it was after work and close by, as I would probably have to work the next day.
Personally, I would spend the extra $1000 and have it on the Friday.
Post # 10
@beachbride1216: +1. I don’t even go to Friday or Sunday weddings, so a Thursday is completely out of the question.
@FoxyBride14: +1, a Friday beats a Thursday and $1,000 would be worth it (to me).
Post # 11
I would go if it was local, however I would not stay late.
If the bride or groom were close family and not local, I would take Thursday and Friday off to attend, and party my ass off. 🙂
Post # 12
I would try to make it, if it was someone close to me.
Post # 13
Only if it was immediate family or a super close friend. Other than that, hell no lol
Post # 14
it the wedding was within an hours drive including traffic, i would go. i would even take off a couple hours from work to get ready. i went to a 5pm wedding on a friday and took half a day off.
but i would leave no later than 10 since i would have to work the next day, especially if i have to drive up to an hour to go home..
if you were a super close friend or a relative, than i would take the next day off depending what was planned and how late the reception was going.
ETA: if all that matters if you save money, i think you should invite a very small number of people, say 30 max. have the ceremony, then treat everyone to dinner afterwards in a private room at a restaurant.
Post # 15
If I was in town or it was like… my brother, I would go! Otherwise not. You could be in luck if you have a lot of in town guests though.
Post # 16
Eh, many people will have to take time off Thursday to make it to the ceremony and a day off on Friday if they really want to party. If I were traveling from far away (plane ride) I wouldn’t care because I’d be making a trip out of the whole thing. If I were local, I’d need to be close to the couple to attend the whole thing a really have a good time. Otherwise, I’d probably show up late (reception only) or more likely on time (for the ceremony) and leave pretty early. A Friday or a Sunday would be my preference for the cost-conscious couple!