(Closed) Would you go to an after party?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

For our close friends, I’d definitely go. For acquaintances and extended family that I wasn’t really close to; I’d probably decline the invite. I personally don’t think it’s rude, and think it’s find to extend an invite – to which the guest has the option to decline.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Wouldn’t be irritated at all.  I’ve gone to afterparties and have had to pay for my drinks.  I mean, I already had a meal and other drinks for free, so what’s a couple drinks to buy?  I say go for it.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Last May, fiance and I attended a friends wedding (actually I attended, he was actually in the wedding.)  The reception was over around 10pm, and the hotel the wedding party was staying at had an awesome bar, so all the “young people” headed there after the reception.(everyone was invited but only the “young people” showed up) It was a really good time, and everyone totally expected to pay their own way. I don’t think it’s rude at all. I think it’s a great way to spend the evening. We almost had a better time at the after party than we did at the reception 🙂

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

Absolutely we would go (and no we wouldn’t be irritated at all)! And to be honest, I think I had more fun at our after party than I did at our reception! It was at the bar at the hotel that we stayed at and it was a lot of fun. We didn’t provide drinks or anything and it was really informal, but with our group of friends, there’s almost always an after party after every wedding we attend!

EDIT: Oh, and we also didn’t send out formal invites. It was sort of one of those things we spread through word of mouth that we would be in the bar at the hotel after the wedding if anyone wanted to join us.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I don’t find that rude.  If it was a close friend I’d go.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i would go!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Nope I see it how you do. I would most likely go, would depend who the couple was.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think it sounds like fun.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

all of the after parties that I have been to are either pay for your own drinks or they are in a suite in the hotel and some drinks/food are provided, but if you wanted more to drink, you brought it.  we love to party in our group, so after parties are fabulous! i just think you can’t expect everyone to attend-and as with everything, you can’t please everyone.  if your friends/family like to have a good time and you want to keep celebrating i say go for it! 🙂

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would go for sure.  Are you having dinner and drinks at your actual wedding?

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yes I would go, and no I would not be irritated. If I received an actual invite in the mail for the afterparty and I had to pay for myself I might get a little annoyed but if it is word of mouth that is fine.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

I wouldn’t be irritated at all. Actually, this is like a tradition in my family.  I don’t think I’ve been to a wedding without a big group of us going to either the hotel bar or someone’s hotel room after. Receptions end too early for us I guess!

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

If it’s a good friend, sure!  I was a bridesmaid back in September, and the whole wedding party and most of the other young people actually kind of created our own.  The bride and groom had already left to go do their thing, but the rest of us went to the hotel pub and stayed out for another five hours.  It was awesome.

I went to another one with similar timing to yours a couple years ago.  The bride and groom actually did come to this after party – but the wedding was also in Japan, where an after party is traditional.  It was a good time!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m sorta doing this. We’re having a short ceremony and then a cocktail/Hors d’œuvre reception type thing. it’ll end around 9pm – ish. Then I’ve booked a pub with a few bands, including my Fiance’s brothers band, and we’ll finish the party off their.

I’m leaving it open, if people want to come they can, if they’re old, or party poopers, they can go home. They’ve already seen the wedding, and eaten the food and had a few drinks on me. The pub is for anyone who wants to get their party on.

I was worried too about whether people thought it would be tacky, but I’m not having a dance, and this is way more “us” than a dance anyway.

I dunno….

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