(Closed) Would you go to someone's wedding after they no-showed at your wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: would you go to someone's wedding, who n- showed at your wedding less than a year before?

    Yes, I would go to their wedding

    No, I would NOT go their wedding

  • Post # 46
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

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    MrsFiveOh:  thanks for the support. 😊 The high road is a heck of a climb, and it’s tough (or everyone would do it). But it’s worth it. And the view is much better. And you’ll never regret it. 

    Post # 49
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    Wannabee

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    cierrabear:  you are very welcome! This writer steals from this site and Reddit, and the only reason I know where to find the posts is because she links them. A few commenters (thanks to my questioning lol) are starting to call her out on it but I thought if the actual poster contacts her, it might actually make a difference. I tried to contact several of the Reddit users but you’re the first to reply to me! I hope something can be done!

    Post # 50
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    Helper bee

    I attended my mother’s second wedding.

    However, when I got married she didn’t come to my wedding. I was, and still am, very very hurt! She is my mum, after all.

    A few weeks ago I got an invitation from her in the mail for her 10 year vow renewal. I declined. She is kicking up a stink about it.

    Go fiqure!

    Post # 51
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    Worker bee

    That’s messed up that they were no shows. You should RSVP that you’re going and not show up. Or go and don’t give a gift. I don’t have any sympathy for people that don’t even have the respect to call ahead and say that they can’t make it. I def think you need to make that known to them so they know what you had to deal with.

    Post # 52
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2008

    I went to the wedding of a no-show because he was marrying my favorite aunt’s daughter. Kind of regret it because I never liked my cousin or her loser BF very much and the wedding reflected how thoughtless and self-centered both of them are, but I wanted to show support for my favorite aunt, who was temporarily recovering from an autoimmune disorder and sewed the bride’s dress. 

    Post # 53
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    Helper bee

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    cierrabear:  I would go, eat food, drink, dance and give an empty card. You already paid $XXX for them at your wedding that they chose not to come to.

    Post # 54
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016 - Garden

    Meh, I’d get over it and go. If you’re that upset about it at least you’ll get free dinner and drinks to make you feel better about you’re own expense.

    As brides we tend to get wrapped up in our wedding and forget people have their own lives and problems. People miss their own flights, vacations and events all the time, and your wedding is just another day to them.  It’s OK to be annoyed about his no-show but you need to get over it. 

    I no-showed at a cousin’s wedding years ago when I knew nothing about the price per head. It was for personal reasons – my dad went nuts on me a week earlier and called the cops to kick me out. He was going to be at her wedding and I didn’t want to be anywhere near him…he was too unpredictable. 

    She followed up a few days later and I lied about why I missed it because I didn’t want her to know what was going on. She seemed ok with my explanation but obviously annoyed. She’s invited to my wedding and if she decides not to show I guess I deserve it, but chances are I’ll be slightly over my numbers anyway. 

     

    • This reply was modified 5 years, 5 months ago by Didi6.
    Post # 55
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

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    unicornphish:  I second this response… lol 🙂

    Post # 56
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    Buzzing bee

    Wow! It depends if you want to go. If you don’t want to go you certianly have a great excuse. I like weddings, so I might go but I’d probaby skip the nice gift! 

    Post # 57
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    Helper bee

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    cierrabear:  I’m vindictive, but I’d go, free food and I’d take full advantage of that open bar, get your money back. So to speak. 

    Post # 58
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

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    cierrabear:  How close is your husband to this guy? I think it’s really rude to not RSVP and send a text after the wedding so I get why you are irritated—I think if they are not close friends (which it seems like they aren’t based on behavior) I wouldn’t go.

    Post # 59
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I would go! I love weddings and life is too short to be petty and bitter! Be honest, you didn’t invite him because you wanted a card or a gift, you invited him because you wanted him to share in your special day. Just because he wasn’t able to make it doesn’t mean that you should just break off the friendship.

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