(Closed) would you go to someones wedding you don't speak too?(vent)

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 48
1637 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

 @ambereyez:  You could use the old “I’m sorry but I didnt realize we ran out of seats” route maybe? Or you could be blunt with her and lay out the reasons why you don’t want her. You run the risk of alienating family though Frown 

Do you think she would say or do something on your wedding day? Can you have your mother or your Maid/Matron of Honor run interference and make sure she does not not near you? Or have our mother/FI call and tell her she had better behave at the wedding?

I would take glee in the fact that she gets to see in at be most beautiful and marrying my best friendCool

Post # 49
386 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@ambereyez:  I wouldn’t call her back and rescind, I don’t know the true history of you two, but it seems that this would further exacerbate the problem. 

Focus on your wedding, have no further communication with her,…… but this is just me, it is what i would do,



Post # 50
205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

i think you should let buy gones be by gones. I could understand the no invite if she were a friend, but she’s family and at the end of the family is all you got. 

Post # 51
2008 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I already cast my vote.

But, I’m pulling for you.  And I’m sending you good vibes.

Post # 52
7371 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@ambereyez:  now you adding fuel to the fire. Its done. She’s invited. Leave it alone. This is nothing to “win” at. The best win is focus on the dozens of other people who are there to fully support you. Your losing sleep on this and I gurantee she’s sleeping just fine. 

Post # 54
1789 posts
Buzzing bee

@redheadem:  +!


Tell her its a recession. you cant afford to feed people you havent seen in almost half a decade

Post # 55
900 posts
Busy bee

I’m also going to go against the grain. I do think it looks extremely petty if you’ve invited all your extended family except for her. Guaranteed your family will not understand your tiff with her nor will they care. They will only see you as being a divider and the one at fault.


Post # 57
218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Maybe she is using this as an opportunity to get back in contact with you.  There are a lot of people I don’t speak to who I wish would reach out.  Such is life.  If you’re deadset on never speaking to her again, then so be it.  But if you had a tiff in the past, maybe this is a good chance to move on and forge something new.

Post # 58
1782 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


Post # 59
2780 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Wow, she’s the only family member not invited? That’s actually quite rude of you to invite everyone else in your family and exlude this one cousin simply because you no longer get along. Family never always gets along. 

I agree with your brother, weddings are a family affair, unless you choose to elope you are required to invite your family.

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