(Closed) Would you go to this baby shower?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Would you attend a baby shower under these circumstances?
    Suck it up and Go : (35 votes)
    15 %
    Skip it : (193 votes)
    82 %
    Other- please explain below : (7 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 17
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    170 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Don’t go but maybe send a very practical gift from the registry.

    Post # 18
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    3696 posts
    Sugar bee

    You could go, but make your gift a donation in the baby’s honor to an organization like St. Jude’s, Heifer International, the March of Dimes, etc. Or a savings bond for the baby.

    Post # 19
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    2684 posts
    Sugar bee

    Personally, I would politely decline, send a modest gift, and leave it at that.  If there’s a lot of bad blood, it’s probably better to avoid the shower.

    Post # 20
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    922 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Part of me wants to tell you to go because you should be the better person and take the higher road.  Then the rest of me says don’t go.  If they can’t afford a baby and are ungrateful for the offerings of your Mother-In-Law, that’s their problem.  They shouldn’t be having a baby.  They don’t sound like people you’d want to hang out with at a shower.  Agreed with PPs that you could just send a very small gift via mail and let them know you couldn’t make the shower (it was last minute when you got the invite, so it’s an easy out).  I’m sorry you are stuck in this position.

    Post # 22
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    1572 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @odynsmom: The two of you not going isn’t going to make it so that they don’t have what they need for the baby… there will be plenty of other guests, and as you said, your Mother-In-Law has plenty of items for them to use. If they don’t get what they need they will have to suck it up and take whats being offered for free, used or not!!

    You could also simply send a gift and not attend, if you are really that worried about it.

    Post # 23
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    2250 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    @MRSsrm85:  +1

    You couldn’t pay me to attend an awkward shower like that (your SIL sounds like a real “witch”), but I would probably send a gift with my regrets. Something small but useful, like a couple of cute books and an outfit or two.

    Post # 24
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    1660 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Honestly, I wouldn’t go… It’s just going to be drama.  If you really want to help them you can send a practical gift… like diapers or something useful (a cute little basket with diapers and baby products is always cute).  That way you at least know it will directly help the baby.

    Post # 25
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    1963 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Hmmm my initial thought was that even if the relationship is strained now, it might not be in the future and you may regret not going. But then the list went on. and on. and on. And they sound like they are being awful! And then you got the point of them ripping your Mother-In-Law off, and I know that there are family members that we no longer talk to (haven’t in almost 2 decades) due to ripping family members off of large sums of money. I wouldn’t have attended their baby showers and I couldn’t advise you to either. If you anticipate having any sort of relationship with them in the future, send a small practical gift as PPs have suggested. if you don’t think you will have a relationship at all, I would say ignore the invitiation.

    Post # 26
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    1056 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    not if there is bad blood…NOPE!  would be the same here, I wouldn’t want my SIL there.

    Post # 27
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    1652 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @pinkshoes:  Hmm, ok, well in that case I would probably make up an excuse 😉

    Post # 28
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I would not attend but still send a gift off their registry…

    Post # 29
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I would probably send a reasonable gift and not attend.

    Post # 30
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    7369 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Send a gift. The end.

    Post # 31
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    4854 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I would send a small gift, likely not from the registry with a nice card and not attend honestly. 

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