(Closed) Would you go to this bachelorette party?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I wouldn’t go. $$$ + an already strained friendship is NOT going to make things better.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I wouldnt go but that is probably because of my personality. I can be really outgoing if I am comfortable but really shy if I am uncomfortable. You sound very unsure about whether the friendship is important to them. Have you tried talking to your friend and telling her how you feel?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would say no.  Call her and let her know that you can’t make it and you feel bad.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

If you feel the friendship is fading, considering the expense and distance of the party, I wouldn’t go.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I definitely wouldn’t go. Why are you going to spend your money on someone who sounds really fake?

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

i wouldn’t go… especially if u r already strapped for $…  a bachelorette party is a good “bonding” experience but u guys could bond just as well with a glass of wine @ home.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I totally know how you feel! Years ago, I introduced my Maid/Matron of Honor to a friend of mine and they clicked and started hanging out all the time and became super friends. Well they started acting really catty and leaving me out of everything and it really sucked. But be warned, if they are anything like the girls I know, if you don’t show up to the bachelorette party they will probably act all innocent like why didn’t you come and then just hold it against you. If you can handle that, then by all means don’t go! But karma has it’s way of working these things out, the girl that I introduced my Maid/Matron of Honor to is actually the worst friend ever and my Maid/Matron of Honor was horrified by her behaviour. Hope everything works out for you!

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@amariem25: I would not go.  It is not worth the money & it seems your friendship has really faded.  She is putting in the effort for your friendship.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Nope I wouldnt go

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

7 hours away, and having to stay at a hotel, is a HUGE no no, unless you’re super close with the girl.

It’s different if it’s at a club in your own city, where you can easily pop in and buy her a drink, have a few yourself and go home. TOTALLY different when it’s 7 hours away. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I had the same situation, and no I didn’t go. The wedding was quite a disappointment for me too. I shouldn’t have wasted the money to go 8 hrs away with the way she treated me at it.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I know how it feels when friends pull expensive bach parties and expect everyone will want to go.  I certainly wouldn’t want to go to something 7 hours away (unless perhaps Vegas..tempting :))  I think it’s unreasonable for brides to expect that of their friends.

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