Post # 16
minnewanka : No, just me and my +1 is invited. There was a bit of drama in the group before, which I believe added on to the growing distance between her and I. I guess I should decide if I care to hold onto the last bit of the friendship, and attend. Leaning towards it..
Post # 17
If the wedding is local and you will know other people in attendance, I would go. If not, send a card and maybe an invitation to lunch after the honeymoon if you want to stay in contact.
Post # 18
She has ignored you for months and now wants to invite you to her wedding? Yeah she wants your money and your ass taking up a seat at her wedding. All for her own benefit. Do not go, RSVP no. If you feel like it, send a congrats card with no gift. She isnt’ your friend anymore. And yes, it would be awkward as hell if you did go.
She made her stance clear. She also didn’t reach out to you after sending you an invite to catch up, or mend things, or be friends. So her invite reeks of her using you. Let this go.
My stance on this is harsh i know. Why? Because i just hate it when people use others for their weddings. If you want people to attend your wedding, or any special occasion than suprise! You have to put in effort before that event comes up. This girl doesn’t deserve your attendance because her actions clearly show she doesn’t care about you. So no, she doesn’t now get to use you for a wedding gift and to fill up her guest list to make herself feel like she has you as a friend. If she wanted you as a friend than she should have shown up and been one in the last 4 months.
Post # 19
If you don’t want to completely burn this bridge, I would go if the wedding is local. Chances are she will be too busy at the wedding for more than a cursory hi how are you, and your presence may make her reconsider the distance between you two. Or it may not. But in either case, you can at least know you made a good faith effort. Plus, weddings are fun!
Post # 20
mrsssb : I do find it odd that I received an invitation but no follow-up or any communication from her..
Post # 21
Maybe she sent you the invite because she felt she had to… even though she wants to distance the friendship. Maybe she’s having the same debate you are now and she decided to leave the decision in your hands by inviting you.
If you think it’s going to be a fun time and you would enjoy yourself then I would go.
Otherwise, nah… i’d pass.
Post # 22
khloemichelle : I feel like whatever the thing is that you *think* she is avoiding you over is probably relevant here.
Post # 23
mrsssb : Yeah she wants your money and your ass taking up a seat at her wedding.
Lol what? Every guest is another $100-200 added to your expenses with absolutely no guarantee of receiving a gift anywhere close to in kind 😂
Where on earth do people on this site get the idea that people trying to make money off a wedding is remotely common??
Post # 24
I feel like the older you get, things happen and people drift apart. I think that if one day you would like to still hang out with her, then definitely go!!! Weddings are awesome!!! 🙂 My Best friend and I go through stints where we barely even text for months and months. But deep down, we will always be there for each other.
I had a childhood friend and life happened. We both moved to different states at one point, we barely even look at each others facebook. But she came back to Ohio (where I live and where we grew up) and announced that she was getting married. When I received an invite I thought it was kinda strange, since we hadn’t spoken in so long. But I went and it was so great to catch up a little and just get to hang out.
I think that the older people get (at least I am HUGE guilty with this) they let life scream by and forget to even say “HI”. But deep down, friendship is still there.
I say go and have a blast! 🙂
Post # 25
Ugh, no, I would not go. So insulting to invite you to her money-grab party while she couldn’t give a fuck to respond to any messages.
Post # 26
I think more people in general would not go but personally, I would go.khloemichelle :
Post # 27
I wouldn’t go. It’s not friendship ending nor affirming to say “thanks for the invite but unfortunately I won’t be able to make it”. She won’t have to know why.
Maybe it’s just me, I don’t make an effort to keep friendships that are drifting apart AND I’ve never really been close to them / had personality differences anyway. What’s the point? Better spend your time fostering your other friendships with people you have mutual liking with and want your friendship.
Post # 29
Agree with the lukewarm yesses. If it’s somewhere nearby and you think you’d enjoy yourself with your plus one for the day/evening, great. Unless it’s a very small wedding, you likely will hardly speak with her other than in the recieving line (if they even do one). But if it’s far/money is tight/you’d have to buy a new dress/no one will go with you, basically any reason at all, just dont bother. RSVP that you won’t be able to make it, send a beautiful card, drive on.