Post # 1
So I’ve been working on a lace shawl as a bridal shower gift for the fiancee of SO’s best friend. They’re planning a cruise for the honeymoon, so I thought this shawl (not my picture, but same yarn and pattern) would be perfect for chilly nights or fancy dinners on the cruise ship:
Trouble is, I’m starting to second-guess myself. What if she thinks I’m being “cheap” by giving her a handmade gift?
Knitters would know how many hours of work go into a lace shawl, even a simple pattern like the one I’m doing (first time knitting lace!)
But that’s why I’m not asking knitters, I’m asking the hive. Should I give a supplemental gift? I’m worried that a supplemental gift would send the message that even I think my handknits aren’t worth much.
P.S. There is a wedding registry, but it’s only at one store and a very short list of items, with nothing that would pair well with a shawl as a gift (i.e. vegetable peelers, tapas plates, etc)
Post # 3
I personally would really love it! I would never think someone was cheap for giving me a handmade gift either! Maybe include a handwritten note about how you thought she could use it on the honeymoon 🙂
Post # 4
I had to choose the second option. I’m just not one for shawls and scarves. I have several that people have given me as gifts and they’re just hanging on a shelf. But I know lots of people do love them, so she may be one of those people.
Post # 5
I would personally LOVE it……
Post # 6
I think that is a really sweet and thoughtful gift. I love receiving knitted hats, scarves, and blankets. A shawl is so awesome!
Post # 7
I was given a handmade, knit baby blanket for the birth of my first son and it remains one of my most treasured and unexpected gifts.
Post # 8
to me yarn=scarf not “shawl”
I’m torn I like heartfelt gifts but at the same time I don’t actually like the item itself.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t love it (only b/c I’m not a shawl/scarf person), but I appreciate the heartfelt gift! We went on a crusie for our honeymoon. It was actually really hot even at night! In March of all months too!
Post # 10
@pecanpie: @MrsJoyful80: @Brideonabudgetlauren: @jjmomma: Thank you all for your kind words, you’re all definitely “knit-worthy”! 🙂
@allyfally: Thanks for chiming in for the second option, I can totally understand about not liking shawls and scarves (SO is the same way, he’s made me promise not to knit any scarves for him)
@vmec: I was hoping the combination of the lacy yarn and this pattern would make it versatile, so it can be worn as a scarf or a shawl 🙂 maybe even tied across the hips at the beach. I know what you mean though, I’d hate for her to hate it, and hide it in a closet feeling guilty that she doesn’t like it
For anyone else that voted “Don’t love it, but appreciate the hours of work” can you tell me what you don’t like? Is it just that you’re not big on shawls/scarves, or you don’t like the color/pattern, or you don’t like it as a bridal shower gift?
Post # 11
@Mrs.Elivs: Thanks for explaining your vote 🙂 I’m surprised it was hot even at night! Where did you go? They’re going to the Bahamas. Personally, I’m always overly air-conditioned, and need something to cover up when dressed up for dinner
Post # 12
I had to choose the second option. I do like scarves whatever, and handmade items are great, but I just don’t like the one in the picture. It wouldn’t go with anything I own, and I don’t wear shawls. Does the fiancee wear stuff like this? TBH, I’d rather get a blanket.
Post # 13
I voted for the second option. I love scarves actually but I just think this is not the appropriate occassion to give something like this. I’m sure that the bride is looking forward to receiving items for their home at her bridal shower. Maybe even some lingerie. A scarf in my opinion is a personal gift to her only and more appropriate for a birthday, holiday, or other gift giving occassion.
If I was to receive this I would be greatful of the time put into it, but at the same time would think it was weird.
Post # 14
I love the color and pattern and as a knitter would be very impressed by the amount of work that went into it. I am not a shawl person but I would definitely use it as a scarf.
Post # 15
Not for me but the intent and time is generous!
Post # 16
@ByLandAndBySea: I voted like the thought but don’t like it. I don’t like the fact its not wide enough to be a shawl and 2 the colours are too vibrant to be versatile in my opinion. I’d RATHER have something in a neutral colour blacks, whites, tans, creams, or pale blush pink.