(Closed) Would You Have A Baby/ Actively TTC While Living In An Apartment?

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: Would You Raise Children Or Actively TTC While Living In An Apartment?
    Yes- as long as it's safe and not a hazard to anyone's health or safety : (84 votes)
    47 %
    Yes- but it would spur me to move into a house or find a more established neighborhood : (38 votes)
    21 %
    No- I would strangle the first person who woke up my newborn by vacuuming at 2am : (1 votes)
    1 %
    No- I would prefer to be in a more permanent living situation, such as a home, with more space : (33 votes)
    19 %
    I'm indifferent, as long as the area is safe with courteous neighbors. : (21 votes)
    12 %
    Obligatory other option :) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    4272 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @Mrs_Amanda:  No, I know a ton of people that live in an apartment and have children……it works for them just fine. Of course, when things start to get cramped then they start looking for a bigger place, but they still had the baby first.

    Post # 4
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    5543 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    No. I hate apartment living myself, I can’t imagine being a little kid without a yard! I am 100% suburbanite/rural suburbia person and don’t know how people function their whole lives sharing walls with people. One of our goals before kids is to own a house. 

    Post # 5
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    2652 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church

    We’re actively TTC and living in an apartment. I don’t see why we couldn’t have a baby in an apartment. My aunt and uncle have 2 children (9 and 13) and have always lived in an apartment and probably always will live in an apartment. We do hope to get a house some time in the next 5 years (so that we can devote our money to paying off student loans right now), but that doesn’t mean that we’ll wait that long to have a baby. It would be a little while before the child would be able to go outside on their own anyways, so a yard vs a park is not a big deal at this point.

    Post # 6
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    3265 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    My parents, brother, and I lived in an apartment until my brother was 13 and I was 7. While it wasn’t the greatest, at least my parents were there for something like 10 years. I would never call it unsuitable for raising a child.

    However, I wouldn’t do the same only because I have moved around a lot. We’re looking at buying a house now, but I have lived in 2 apartments and 1 rental house all within the last 5 years. The apartments went up crazy amounts every year with a new lease resign (last one went up $175/mo). I hate moving and making my cat adjust to new places, I can’t imagine having to relocate a child. Because of this a permanent house -at least for a good number of years- is a main component for us to TTC in the future.

    Post # 7
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    1301 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Mrs_Amanda:  You should tell your friend about a place called Europe… We all live in apartments, and we still procreate! I think its totally fine to live in an appartment and have kids. I am 11 weeks pregnant and living in an apartment. 

    Post # 8
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    1501 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I don’t see anything wrong with it. If it is a tiny apartment there might not be much room for a kid, but you can get apartments that would have the space.

    There was a time when I was a kid that we spent some time living in an apartment and there was plenty of yard to play in. And it was great as there were lots of other kids always outside playing, so you didn’t have to play in the yard alone.

    We live in a townhouse. So our ‘yard’ is a small fenced concrete slab. Not so ideal to play in. but there is lots of common area that is grassed and we live behind a couple schools, so there are playgrounds and fields to play at.

    Post # 10
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    5800 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I don’t see why it’s necessary, I know plenty of people in NYC who raise babies/toddlers in apartments.

    Post # 11
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    7770 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    It is easy to talk when you are not there yet (speaking of your friend!).  Sometimes you wake up and you are ready, and that is more important than whether you are a home-owner.  I know plenty of home-owners who should not be parents.  No, I absolutely do not think that is a prereq for parenthood.  It reminds me of a young girl in one of my classes that said you should have a baby before thirty.  I just wanted to pat her on the back and say, “we’ll see where you are at when you get there.”  I think if you wait for ideals in life you will be disappointed and miss out.  There are much more important requirements, IMO.

     

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    All apartments are not created equal.

    I lived in an apartment that is bigger than the the condo I am currently renting. 

    She making assumptions about apartments, that they are all small and loud (IE hear neighbors) and inconvenient or have no access to outdoor space. This is not always the case.

    Post # 13
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    8041 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @Mrs_Amanda:  I think it would be fine. Think of all those people in Manhattan with parents who have GREAT jobs, but have to live in apartments since that’s the norm.

    I think there are pros and cons to living anywhere. Sounds corny, but as long as there’s love, a roof over their heads, something to play with, and food, what more does a small child really need?

    Apartments are typically walking distance from playgrounds anyway.

    I grew up all over the place.. in apartments in a big city, bungalows, a big house on an acreage… and in a townhouse in a smallish city. The acreage was great because we had 3 acres and could go explore and do what we want.. but it was also stifling because we were stuck in the middle of nowhere. Ok when I was a kid, but I was glad we moved when I was getting older since it would be super boring for a teenager.

    A house or large condo is ideal because you have more space, but kids don’t notice things like adults do.

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I find this question amusing. Waiting for the Europeans/Asian/New Yorkers (ha!) to chime in. 

    Post # 16
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    695 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I live in an apartment, but we do own it.  Most people in NYC live in apartments though.

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