(Closed) Would you have a baby in a foreign country? Advice pls!

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Post # 31
307 posts
Helper bee

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spbee:  I’ve known US citizens who have lived in Tokyo and while they did take Japanese language classes while they were in Japan, they are nowhere near fluent in Japanese and were okay getting on with their day to day lives in the city. I think one of them gave birth in Japan.

I’ve heard that in smaller towns it’s harder to find people who speak English, but I’ve been told Tokyo is fine.

Post # 32
2031 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I know people who have, but I personally wouldn’t.  I have some health concerns, and my family wouldn’t be able to even come visit.  It is important to me to have family support and you are still young!!  One year in the whole realm of things isn’t a lot.  

If you do decide that it is for you, I would definitely carefully look into health care, and insurance, and have a really clear idea what it would be like, and get the advice of family and friends- people who know you!  Lots of people do it successfully, I just think it would be lonely having this beautiful baby and none of my family or friends to show it off to. 

Post # 33
816 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Just keep in mind some countries require a vast amount of paperwork for people on temporary visas who give birth there. Do your research.

Post # 34
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

This is a bit of a different perspective (and maybe it doesn’t apply, as you guys are in Singapore), but I think we would look on a year in a foreign country as a big adventure for us as a couple, and I would not want to spend it pregnant/not eating sushi in JAPAN/giving birth/observing a confinement period/caring for an infant. I don’t see it making a huge difference to wait a year, in the grand scheme of things. If you were 35+, yes. 29, no.

Post # 35
499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Maui

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bourdon: Pregnant Japanese women do eat sushi. Doctors don’t forbid it here.

Post # 36
966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I don’t think that the medical care you should worry about Japan is a wonderful country.  But sometimes it can take a village to raise a child.  So it will just be you and your DH.  Agreed that you both will have a tighter load with you being off work and him being a student.  I am not sure if were you normally live you have alot of family.  So it may not be that different for you, just a different country.  Also I would look into your insurance.  Make sure that they would cover birth abroud.  Look into possible doctors. 

It is more the logistics that may be more burdonsome but as far as the healthcare system, Japan has a universal health care system not sure how it works of their expats.

Post # 37
49 posts

I think I would have a baby under the circumstances you’re describing. Not in all countries but in Japan – yes.

Post # 38
1746 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Regarding the infant mortality statistics, they are not accurate as the stats are collected differently in different countries. The definition of live birth varies. The USA counts *any* sign of life as a “live” birth, other countries do not. Some countries expect an infant to survive a certain period of time before calling it a life birth. In japan if a baby dies within 24 hrs, it is considered a “miscarriage” not a death! Thus the infant mortality statistics cannot be relied upon to paint a true picture!!


Low birth weight infants are not counted against the “live birth” statistics for many countries reporting low infant mortality rates.According to the way statistics are calculated in Canada, Germany, and Austria, a premature baby weighing <500g is not considered a living child.

But in the U.S., such very low birth weight babies are considered live births. The mortality rate of such babies – considered “unsalvageable” outside of the U.S. and therefore never alive – is extraordinarily high; up to 869 per 1,000 in the first month of life alone. This skews U.S. infant mortality statistics.

Some of the countries reporting infant mortality rates lower than the U.S. classify babies as “stillborn” if they survive less than 24 hours whether or not such babies breathe, move, or have a beating heart at birth.

Forty percent of all infant deaths occur in the first 24 hours of life.In the United States, all infants who show signs of life at birth (take a breath, move voluntarily, have a heartbeat) are considered alive.

If a child in Hong Kong or Japan is born alive but dies within the first 24 hours of birth, he or she is reported as a “miscarriage” and does not affect the country’s reported infant mortality rates.

In Switzerland and other parts of Europe, a baby born who is less than 30 centimeters long is not counted as a live birth. Therefore, unlike in the U.S., such high-risk infants cannot affect Swiss infant mortality rates.

Efforts to salvage these tiny babies reflect this classification. Since 2000, 42 of the world’s 52 surviving babies weighing less than 400g (0.9 lbs.) were born in the United States.Because we don’t have socialized medicine – yet – heroic efforts to save newborns are common in America while these same infants are considered “unsalvageable” in other countries and not counted against their mortality statistics.”



Post # 39
900 posts
Busy bee

My best friend was born in a foreign country.  She has dual citizenship with Canada (her parents are US citizens, she was born in Canada), because when her mom went into labor, they were living right on the Canadian border in the US, and the Canadian hospital was right across the border, but the US hospital was over an hour drive away.  We find this incredibly amusing.

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